A little talk with Grounds Keeper Willie

[Warrior74]

So, I just I'm washing clothes and I run into the Grounds Keeper at my apartment complex. We usually chat about Football (Roll Tide!) as I have a Bama sticker on my car. He's a straight up redneck, about 55 years old, but he likes the fact that I do most of my own repairs in my apartment and helped me fix my dishwasher a few weeks ago. I figure I should learn how to fix things for when I move out in a few months to my own house...but I digress.

So we're chatting and he tells me how his wife of 25 years left him. She took 8 thousand of their 9 thousand dollar tax return and ran off to Ohio in the middle of this blizzard to be with her internet lover. Her excuse, he drinks to much. She left behind her 16 year old son and 23 year old daughter who lives with them. She took the 1000 she promised her kids for their books and school stuff and told him to use the 1000 she left which was suppose to be used for bills.

This isn't her first infraction. He tells me how 8 years ago she ran of to spend a weekend in Florida with this guy and he forgave her and took her back. Mainly because, in his words, he was getting some on the side somewhere else that she didn't know about, so he felt guilty and figured fair is fair. Then she ran off for a weekend a few years ago with some other guy and he gave her an ultimatum, if she does it again don't come back. So she took him at his word...she cleaned out the house, the savings and the electronics, loaded them up in his truck and left off to brave the cold.

He says that she's up there cooking and cleaning for this guy and his 4 kids, when she wouldn't even cook or clean for her own family. This guy has no job and she's spending all of her money taking care of them.

The only advice I offered him was to keep his head on straight, not to get emotional or start heavy drinking and to secure the rest of his assets before divorcing her. He said he doesn't know if he's going to divorce her or not and that she needs to come back to her family. I just told him to let her go and move on. He said he just wanted to vent and get it out of his system. And that he just met a 27 year old who's getting divorced and has been dating her. My other advice to him...never get married again. I would have pointed him here, but when I brought it up he said he hates the internet and facebook and myspace because that's what she used to meet guys and cheat on him.

Good luck Grounds Keeper Willie!

 

[bigjohnson]

I figure I should learn how to fix things for when I move out in a few months to my own house...but I digress.

Depending on your motives .... think about that long and hard. Home ownership isn't always the best financial move, be sure to really look at the numbers. A lot of times you can do better for yourself to live simply and invest in other instruments.

As for Willie, he should dump her. The kids are old enough to understand.

 

[squirrels]

Miserable situation all the way around.

I hate seeing people reduced to this. I see a lot of it in my DUI sessions...people with personal troubles, family issues, insane ex-wives, kids acting out, cheating, etc...

None of them have the balls to just say, "enough" and break away from it. Once you have kids, it's near impossible, because you have an obligation toward them...problem is they're just as f*cked as you are because they're coming up in that busted-ass home.

Something like that shouldn't be left to "luck". People need to think a little more before making irreversible decisions.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Grounds Keeper Willie: "Say man, you gotta hogleg we could burn?"

Warrior: "Uhh not on me, man."

Grounds Keeper Willie: "It'd be a whole lot cooler if you did."

 

[Warrior74]

Grounds Keeper Willie: "Say man, you gotta hogleg we could burn?"

Warrior: "Uhh not on me, man."

Grounds Keeper Willie: "It'd be a whole lot cooler if you did."

Dazed and Confused for the win.

 

[jonwon]

It's always sad reading stories of men, older men at that who are and have been burned by the system.

On the other hand it makes me give myself a silent slap on the back for knowing i'll never be that guy and the age of 34, knowing I know more about the female sex then a guy at 55.

It's refreshing when you put it like that, this guy is poorly educated, his actions have created this situation and his lack of for-sight and knowledge propelled him to the shi* storm he is now embracing.

I'll never ever be taken to the cleaners in any manner by any female, due to knowledge and examples of the many guys like the one above who has been sha* on by a system these guys passivly support.

There is a reason why women like the guys wife get away with bad behaviour, it's because time and time again the let them, then when they are confronted with the truth and the light of day, the avoid the reality of the situation and instead believe fantasy to be reality.

These examples are great, not to try to help the victim, i.e the guy, but to show the next generation of males what to watch out for.

Hence to make sure the girl he dates is worth sticking with for the long haul.

This guys wife would have come with many problems, which he failed to act on, cumulating in her cheating on him, not once but 3 x. We already see she was pursuing male interest on dating and internet sites, what did he do whilst his wife chatting to other men on the internet? Nothing by the looks of it, instead he pleaded and begged for her forgivness and he now wants her back after her coc* hopping.

The guy is a bona-fida beta, he deserved it, simply because he allowed it, in effect he passivly supported her coc* hopping actions.

 

[squirrels]

The system works. Poor specimens of male end up mating with poor specimens of female. As Jonwon points out, he is in this position because he entered into a commitment with a woman who did not deserve it.

This happened probably one of two ways...he either was banging her for so long that he thought, "why not", or he received tremendous pressure from his family/friends or her/her family/her friends to "take the next step" and he caved. Possibly he knocked her up ahead of time.

I can appreciate his desire to take care of his kids. It seems that's the only reason he wants her back, to try to maintain a stable environment for the children, and that is somewhat honorable. But he should know by now that it's a lost cause.

If there were no kids involved, he COULD and WOULD cut her loose in a New-York-second. That's what people don't get...in modern society, marriage is fully annullable...it means nothing.

Having CHILDREN, on the other hand, is irreversable...you're connected to the life of this person for GOOD then, and anything they say or do impacts not only you but your FAMILY.

To all you single guys who are too "cool" to wear condoms...THIS is how you are likely to end up. Take note.

And to all you guys in "serious relationships"...before you go a-breeding, you'd better make DAMN sure that you've checked this girl out and she's fit for the job, because if she turns on you, your life WILL descend into misery for at LEAST the next 18 years.

 

[Colossus]

One thing I've learned is that there is at least two sides to every story...and divorce is no exception. It's easy to just say he chose the wrong woman 25 years ago; and clearly she is not of any discernible quality; but I'd bet he drinks more than he admits, and he tolerated repeated infidelity.

In any case, what a travesty. The kids have a mom with zero integrity who is out cooking for another man's family with her husbands money. Squirrels brings up an important truth--when you have kids with a woman you are bound to her for life. You may not see her all the time, but she will still be the mother of your children.