My girlfriend stayed with me Monday night...i invited her to stay tues...WELL, any/every night to be honest...well she said she had family in town and she replyed "thursday night?"...well it's thursday......she has text me twice today...the first text was "im so thankful for you"....the second was " im looking at your building" (i work late and she lives across the bay from where i work).... i replied both times with a simple smily face(the 1st text) and a HAHA to the second....i guess i don't wont this to be another onitest and mostly..i don't wont her to run the show. im sure some of you will say i sound needy BUT i do want your opinons ....i just don't want to remind her ...hey IT's THURSDAY. .....thanks for any input
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
a little love sick
- Thread starter teachme
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
...I think your overthinking this far too much. Just phone her up or text her and say "hey are we still good for tonight?" It's a simple straight forward and reasonable question.
Why are you thinking about this again? Come on. The first text is sweet, to the second you could have replied that she should stop stalking you (in a jokingly manner of course). Honestly, if she texts stuff like that, I think that's her way of asking if it's still on. And another thing, a man of true confidence wouldn't worry about texting or not texting. He'd do what the hell he feels like.teachme said:
It happens to the best of us, when we start feeling a little more than just sexual attraction. Suddenly we feel vulnerable, we're scared of blowing it and getting hurt, so the defences go up.
It's weird, but when you're in this state of mind you suddenly start getting paranoid about little things she said or did not say, start noticing the length of her texts, how many kisses she adds and so on.
Basically, what Plec and Alex said are right. Stop giving in to this paranoia, just call her or text her and ask if she's still on for tonight.
If you keep acting cool and defensive, then she might start acting the same way, which will make you even more defensive...until you just stop talking. Don't let it get to that bro!
It's weird, but when you're in this state of mind you suddenly start getting paranoid about little things she said or did not say, start noticing the length of her texts, how many kisses she adds and so on.
Basically, what Plec and Alex said are right. Stop giving in to this paranoia, just call her or text her and ask if she's still on for tonight.
If you keep acting cool and defensive, then she might start acting the same way, which will make you even more defensive...until you just stop talking. Don't let it get to that bro!
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ahhh yes the game... i sick of it..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.