My girlfriend stayed with me Monday night...i invited her to stay tues...WELL, any/every night to be honest...well she said she had family in town and she replyed "thursday night?"...well it's thursday......she has text me twice today...the first text was "im so thankful for you"....the second was " im looking at your building" (i work late and she lives across the bay from where i work).... i replied both times with a simple smily face(the 1st text) and a HAHA to the second....i guess i don't wont this to be another onitest and mostly..i don't wont her to run the show. im sure some of you will say i sound needy BUT i do want your opinons ....i just don't want to remind her ...hey IT's THURSDAY. .....thanks for any input
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
a little love sick
- Thread starter teachme
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
...I think your overthinking this far too much. Just phone her up or text her and say "hey are we still good for tonight?" It's a simple straight forward and reasonable question.
Why are you thinking about this again? Come on. The first text is sweet, to the second you could have replied that she should stop stalking you (in a jokingly manner of course). Honestly, if she texts stuff like that, I think that's her way of asking if it's still on. And another thing, a man of true confidence wouldn't worry about texting or not texting. He'd do what the hell he feels like.teachme said:
It happens to the best of us, when we start feeling a little more than just sexual attraction. Suddenly we feel vulnerable, we're scared of blowing it and getting hurt, so the defences go up.
It's weird, but when you're in this state of mind you suddenly start getting paranoid about little things she said or did not say, start noticing the length of her texts, how many kisses she adds and so on.
Basically, what Plec and Alex said are right. Stop giving in to this paranoia, just call her or text her and ask if she's still on for tonight.
If you keep acting cool and defensive, then she might start acting the same way, which will make you even more defensive...until you just stop talking. Don't let it get to that bro!
It's weird, but when you're in this state of mind you suddenly start getting paranoid about little things she said or did not say, start noticing the length of her texts, how many kisses she adds and so on.
Basically, what Plec and Alex said are right. Stop giving in to this paranoia, just call her or text her and ask if she's still on for tonight.
If you keep acting cool and defensive, then she might start acting the same way, which will make you even more defensive...until you just stop talking. Don't let it get to that bro!
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ahhh yes the game... i sick of it..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.