"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A list of my weakpoints, and how to fix them; any input please?

BannedGod

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Ok here it is, any comments, tips, personnal experience, whatever about any weak point or goal would be greatly appreciated :D

Also, the two weak points and goals in italic, I know these are big problems for me, but I don't really know how to work on that on a daily basis to try to improve them... any suggestions?

Weak Points:
• Lack of confidence
• Don’t take conversation opportunities
• Don’t hold eye contact long enough
• Caring too much what others think of me
• Overanalyzing things, don’t act wild enough

• Don’t speak my mind enough
• Unable to dance
• Waste too much time on the computer
• Bad face hygiene

Goals:
• Try to talk to strangers (adult, seniors), 2-3 per week (once I get comfortable with this, I'll try with people my age)
• Make more small talk with customers at my job / workers at my gym / members at my gym
• Hold eye contact at least 5 times a day (when possible)
• Start thinking that only I matter, not anyone else
• Act on impulse, get what I want without caring of the outcome

• If someone does something that displeases me, make sure I speak my mind to let it be known
• Try to learn a few dance moves
• Read more
• Read books by Nietzsche and Freud
• Start drawing (1 drawing per day)
• Brush teeth 2x day, floss 4x week (I HATE doing that, really have to force myself to do it), face cream daily, shave daily
 

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Go out more. Try to think of your social self as another person, even name it if you want, so you dont have to own your behavior if you dont want too. Talk to WOMEN daily, not Senior Citizens, what are you thinking?! Take care of yourself, etc. etc.
 

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forget freud and get david deangelo's stuff or neil strauss/ross jefferies, the book Davagina code, bayboy boot camps........READ STUFF THAT REAPS SUCCESS. SOME OF THE GREATEST SCIENTIFIC MINDS OF ALL TIME DIED VIRGINS.........nuff said
 

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Nietzsche was a rambling madman.

Freud was a perverted, misguided oddball.

Read up-to-date material.

If you're interested in psychology and human nature, let me recommend Steven Pinker's books How the Mind Works and The Blank Slate
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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• Lack of confidence
• Don’t take conversation opportunities
• Don’t hold eye contact long enough
If we're just talking about women here, then just try to pretend like you're talking to a friend (maybe want to mind the manners a little more).

• Unable to dance
• Waste too much time on the computer
Sorry, if I knew how to fix these two, I'd spend less time on the computer and more time dancing. :)

• Bad face hygiene
This sounds pretty easy, just get into a routine of doing it. There's no way I can make you like flossing/brushing your teeth, its just one of the ****ty things in life you kind of have to do. Like unloading the dishwasher.
 

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BannedGod said:
Weak Points:
• Lack of confidence - DO THINGS THAT PUT YOU OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE, GO OUT 4 NIGHTS A WEEK AND APPROACH PEOPLE, JOIN PUBLIC SPEAKING CLUBS LIKE TOASTMASTERS

• Don’t take conversation opportunities- GET A SOCIAL JOB LIKE WAITING TABLES THAT FORCES YOU TO SPEAK WITH PEOPLE

• Don’t hold eye contact long enough- KEEP MAKING IT AND KEEP DOING YOUR BEST IN TIME IT'LL GET GOOD

• Caring too much what others think of me- GO OUT FOR 4NIGHTS A WEEK AND APPROACH 10 PEOPLE EACH NIGHT, AFTER 1-5YEARS YOU'LL STOP CARING

• Overanalyzing things, don’t act wild enough- JOIN IMPROV COMEDY CLUBS OR TAKE CLASSES


• Don’t speak my mind enough- THIS WILL CHANGE AFTER GOING OUT FOR A PERIOD OF TIME

• Unable to dance- TAKE DANCING LESSONS

• Waste too much time on the computer- UNPLUG YOUR COMPUTER AND GIVE THE CORD TO A FRIEND

• Bad face hygiene- SEE A DERMATOLOGIST




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