But what does control mean to both parties? The way I look at it, both guy and girl get into a serious relationship because they want to be happy. They believe that getting involved with the other person will give them happiness.
The reason why most relationships don't turn out the way the involved parties would like it to is because they choose to ignore the fact that relationships generally involves certain unspoken or spoken rules and customs that essentially takes away certain individual freedoms. The more freedom a particular relationship takes away, less happiness will be experienced.
Think about it. What do people complain about? "My partner is cheating on me", "He's not giving me enough attention", "She throws a tantrum and doesn't want to tell me what's wrong" and any other arguments stems from the fact that one person is unhappy about the other person. They want the other person to 'change'. They want them to behave in a manner which they are happier with. It goes back and forth because neither side wants to give in (or give up their freedom). This reasoning also applies to family relationships.
It's hard enough trying to make and keep one party happy. Try making both sides happy and you have a mountain to climb.
These are my thoughts. And it has made me realize that people are generally not meant to be together for a long period of time.
