"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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muffinman8400

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A UG9 friend asked me if I would like to go to the movies with her friend a few days ago...I brushed it off, but what should I do should something like this happen again? I do not want a relationship with aforementioned girl. And I don't know her friend at all. could be hot, or not, but the ug is out of the question. So, any advice?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LOL this is a reversal of our game guys... How would you feel if a girl always went over this problem with you?

She can take you to the movie.

How do you know the UG9? If your friends, you go to the movie as a friend. Than HER friend is who you choose to escalate.

The thing is, you should always be busy. Don't make up things that you are busy about, that's attention hoe solutions, and that's not what you are wanting to become.

You could always tell her that you just want to be friends... wait for her to say something, and than say whatever, and than accept going to the movies with her if she pays:)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ugly vs hot

hot is 1-10
1 If absolutely desperate
10 every chance I had

ugly being
1 If absolutely desperate
10 never say never? pfft, never is an understatement
 

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That's a funny one.
I find that ugly chicks hang out with ugly chicks, and hot chicks hang out with hot chicks. Atleast, in most cliques.
 
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