"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A "just-doing-my-job" open today. Short but sweet

slitherjef

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This one was NOT a co-worker. This one was a customer, a cute 7 came up to get something where I was working. I looked at her, see seen me, cracked a smile so I took that as a cue to ask her how it was going, she said okay I said that was good, then asked me the same. I said I was doing good as well. I continue to work thinking I should keep going and say something else, I blurt out something like, "this gets repetitive after a while" while I was going back and forth stocking something. At first she did not hear me (this seems to be a problem?) so I repeat what I told her and she acknowlages my goofy comment (hey, better then saying nothing right?) She started to head away so I tell her to have a good night. She tells me to do the same.

Again, nothing much here but I am using my job as an excuse to talk to people in turn, this should help me get over my shyness quicker. I still feel if I do a cold approch on the street the chick would be like, why the hell are you talking to me!?

But if I put my self in the habit of saying "hi, how's it going?" to girls at work, the habit should carry over to say the coffee shop or something. Another thing that kind of helps is speak first THEN look.

I should note that I said "hey..." to a few other customers to, mostly women since I have been at this new store.

Hehehe, I dig getting smiles from women :D
Just got to push the talking a bit more
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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j0n024

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Agree you should keep it up but dont stay on women only open up men,kids,old people everyone you see...you are working at a job they wont think anything out of the ordinary because it's the norm for people that are working to talk to strangers, good luck.
 

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slitherjef said:
so I took that as a cue to ask her how it was going, she said okay I said that was good, then asked me the same. I said I was doing good as well.
You did well making the first move, no matter what the situation.

Something I've found works for me, is when someone asks me how I'm going, I tell them "I am fantastic!" or just simply "Brilliant!". They're not usually expecting that and they will usually ask "And just why are you so fantastic?" You've just opened up a conversation where they're now (at least a little bit) interested in you.
 

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Cremasta said:
You did well making the first move, no matter what the situation.

Something I've found works for me, is when someone asks me how I'm going, I tell them "I am fantastic!" or just simply "Brilliant!". They're not usually expecting that and they will usually ask "And just why are you so fantastic?" You've just opened up a conversation where they're now (at least a little bit) interested in you.
I open a similar way like your above example when I daygame.

I usually walk up to whoever it is I want to open, and say something along the lines of "Keep smiling, you're making me almost smile." Usually, they stop whatever it is they're doing, say "Hi" and smile even wider. I proceed to say "OK, you did it" and then continue with my talking.

It fails once in a while but the success rate is too high to ignore.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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