"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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A "just-doing-my-job" open today. Short but sweet

slitherjef

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This one was NOT a co-worker. This one was a customer, a cute 7 came up to get something where I was working. I looked at her, see seen me, cracked a smile so I took that as a cue to ask her how it was going, she said okay I said that was good, then asked me the same. I said I was doing good as well. I continue to work thinking I should keep going and say something else, I blurt out something like, "this gets repetitive after a while" while I was going back and forth stocking something. At first she did not hear me (this seems to be a problem?) so I repeat what I told her and she acknowlages my goofy comment (hey, better then saying nothing right?) She started to head away so I tell her to have a good night. She tells me to do the same.

Again, nothing much here but I am using my job as an excuse to talk to people in turn, this should help me get over my shyness quicker. I still feel if I do a cold approch on the street the chick would be like, why the hell are you talking to me!?

But if I put my self in the habit of saying "hi, how's it going?" to girls at work, the habit should carry over to say the coffee shop or something. Another thing that kind of helps is speak first THEN look.

I should note that I said "hey..." to a few other customers to, mostly women since I have been at this new store.

Hehehe, I dig getting smiles from women :D
Just got to push the talking a bit more
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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j0n024

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Agree you should keep it up but dont stay on women only open up men,kids,old people everyone you see...you are working at a job they wont think anything out of the ordinary because it's the norm for people that are working to talk to strangers, good luck.
 

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slitherjef said:
so I took that as a cue to ask her how it was going, she said okay I said that was good, then asked me the same. I said I was doing good as well.
You did well making the first move, no matter what the situation.

Something I've found works for me, is when someone asks me how I'm going, I tell them "I am fantastic!" or just simply "Brilliant!". They're not usually expecting that and they will usually ask "And just why are you so fantastic?" You've just opened up a conversation where they're now (at least a little bit) interested in you.
 

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Cremasta said:
You did well making the first move, no matter what the situation.

Something I've found works for me, is when someone asks me how I'm going, I tell them "I am fantastic!" or just simply "Brilliant!". They're not usually expecting that and they will usually ask "And just why are you so fantastic?" You've just opened up a conversation where they're now (at least a little bit) interested in you.
I open a similar way like your above example when I daygame.

I usually walk up to whoever it is I want to open, and say something along the lines of "Keep smiling, you're making me almost smile." Usually, they stop whatever it is they're doing, say "Hi" and smile even wider. I proceed to say "OK, you did it" and then continue with my talking.

It fails once in a while but the success rate is too high to ignore.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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