"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A good method for creating mystery

izza

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Here's a good way to create mystery:

Let's say you enjoy tutoring children. When you are with a girl, what you do is you joke with her that you kids are really annoying. Or let's say you really like to play chess, you joke "man, how can you like that boring game? All you do is sit there!" Of course, it has to be funny and feel right, or else you're just being dishonest. But if what you say is funny, just watch the expression on the girl's face when she finds out you love kids, or play chess well or whatever it may be. At that moment, BAM, she will discover that 1.) you're not trying to impress her, 2.) that you're talented or caring or whatever, and most importantly 3.) that you're a mystery. She will start to wonder what else she doesn't know about you, and right away, as if she just took a powerful love elixir, she will begin to fall in love with you.

I never try to do this, I just do it. But I noticed that two of my friends who are girls, who I wasn't too interested in romantically, fell for me after I was joking with them in this way. I felt kinda bad that I couldn't reciprocate, but it's just who I am and what I do. Give it a try, if it feels right. Just remember, agreeing with everything a chick says is not the only way to build rapport.

Good luck,

Izza

Edit: What if a girl says, "I thought you didn't like chess?" I just say playfully "That doesn't sound like something I would say. Chess is for geniuses!" This usually gets her playfully angry, which is fun.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by izza
Here's a good way to create mystery:

Let's say you enjoy tutoring children. When you are with a girl, what you do is you joke with her that you kids are really annoying. Or let's say you really like to play chess, you joke "man, how can you like that boring game? All you do is sit there!" Of course, it has to be funny and feel right, or else you're just being dishonest. But if what you say is funny, just watch the expression on the girl's face when she finds out you love kids, or play chess well or whatever it may be. At that moment, BAM, she will discover that 1.) you're not trying to impress her, 2.) that you're talented or caring or whatever, and most importantly 3.) that you're a mystery. She will start to wonder what else she doesn't know about you, and right away, as if she just took a powerful love elixir, she will begin to fall in love with you.

I never try to do this, I just do it. But I noticed that two of my friends who are girls, who I wasn't too interested in romantically, fell for me after I was joking with them in this way. I felt kinda bad that I couldn't reciprocate, but it's just who I am and what I do. Give it a try, if it feels right. Just remember, agreeing with everything a chick says is not the only way to build rapport.

Good luck,

Izza
Correct me if i am wrong, but if you loved chess, and told her you found it boring since you just sat there, and she found out you liked it, wouldn't she think you were embarrassed of it, and made a joke to seem like you wern't. :confused:
 

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It's cool, snintel. This tip is pretty counterintuitive, and probably wouldn't work with a lot of styles. It works with mine because I do a lot of c/f and challenging.

Other guy (sorry forgot your name): Would she think I was embarrassed? She'll only think I'm embarrassed if I act embarrassed about it, which I'm not.

Most women I know think chess is awesome, and are impressed that I'm good at it. Those that don't think it's cool just aren't for me.

-Izza
 

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My cousin fell for me when I visited her in the philippines... she's cute but uh...:rolleyes: i guess its good practice

I was doing exactly what your saying without knowing it...

I was just being honest..lol
She was all into rap, and beyonce, and i was basically like... what is rap..lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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