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What's the best reply?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A girls asks you "are you attracted to me??"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Its not WHAT you should say, its WHAT you should communicating to her
Do you want to communicate that: "yes she is attractive because she is a hottie" or
do you wan to communicate to her: "that she is an attractive girl, but looks alone dont cut if for you, someone who you click with and have a good time, is far more valuable to you, then a pretty face."
Do you want to communicate that: "yes she is attractive because she is a hottie" or
do you wan to communicate to her: "that she is an attractive girl, but looks alone dont cut if for you, someone who you click with and have a good time, is far more valuable to you, then a pretty face."
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nevermind.. I found this!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=157944&highlight=attracted
SS is a goldmine.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=157944&highlight=attracted
SS is a goldmine.
This is the advice of a guy who has never been asked this question.the305 said:
Say something crazy like, 'not really, but its the personality that counts'. Hold a straight face for super humour effect. When in doubt, attack her self esteem.
or, 'no, but your mum on the other hand, wow'. That makes me laugh everytime.
It depends on the situation. Don't say something to win her approval. Don't do some stupid **** like saying no when you are because someone said that girls are attracted to guys that don't show much interrest. Just don't be afraid or try to hide anything.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I used this one from the old thread
What should I say to that?
Now she said "If you rub my feet"
What should I say to that?
Guys, you have to realize WHY women ask this question, 80% of the time they ask that question to figure out if you just want to get in their pants and thats it.
hot girl: tell me the truth, you just want sex from me right?
you: no but your mom on the other hand!
so for anyone who wants to ease the mind of a girl thats thinking about sleeping with you, but isnt quite sure yet... i suggest do just that ease her mind, dont avoid it with a silly joke, that will just make her think "yeah he just wants me for sex."
hot girl: tell me the truth, you just want sex from me right?
you: no but your mom on the other hand!
so for anyone who wants to ease the mind of a girl thats thinking about sleeping with you, but isnt quite sure yet... i suggest do just that ease her mind, dont avoid it with a silly joke, that will just make her think "yeah he just wants me for sex."
@305, your advice is straight up nonsense.
Its called flirting. Rule 1, you never take her seriously. Rule 2, you never make it too easy for her.
Easing her mind is not what you want at all.
If you're up for it, 'ok, but i might get carried away and continue up your legs with my massage...'
Anything playful will do buddy.
Its called flirting. Rule 1, you never take her seriously. Rule 2, you never make it too easy for her.
Easing her mind is not what you want at all.
Haha, keep playing the game. This is basically a childs game, keep teasing her.Bluntmaster said:
If you're up for it, 'ok, but i might get carried away and continue up your legs with my massage...'
Anything playful will do buddy.
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thanks, that was golden.
RULE NUMBER 1: Always sub communicate to a girl its never, about sex and sex only.
RULE NUMBER 2: if you FAIL to sub communicate that, when SHE brings it up, MAKE sure you communicate it.
Can it be in a fun sexual way, of course.
RULE NUMBER 2: if you FAIL to sub communicate that, when SHE brings it up, MAKE sure you communicate it.
Can it be in a fun sexual way, of course.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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she got a little snooty to the remark about massaging her legs:
"is that right? well hmmmm you better stay respectful mister"
WTF should I say to that?
"is that right? well hmmmm you better stay respectful mister"
WTF should I say to that?
Bluntmaster: I told you what to communicate to her... You decided to go with other advice, because it "seemed" more useful, your mindset is in the wrong place thats why you though it "seemed" more useful.
You cannot attract and seduce, with her not being "ready", you saw a way to "flirt sexually" and you took it, when u should of been focusing on other areas first, THEN laid down the sexual stuff.
She gave you a 'read in between the lines' red flag about sexual stuff, and then you go forward with sexual stuff? Does that make any sense? I guess it did to whoever gave u the advice... lol
P.S. do note that it wasnt a "fck up" move, and its fairly easy to fix, but if she is talking to another guy and is interested in him as well.. he is surely ahead of you in the race now.. Keep that in mind for when you are gaming, not just this girl but all girls.
You cannot attract and seduce, with her not being "ready", you saw a way to "flirt sexually" and you took it, when u should of been focusing on other areas first, THEN laid down the sexual stuff.
She gave you a 'read in between the lines' red flag about sexual stuff, and then you go forward with sexual stuff? Does that make any sense? I guess it did to whoever gave u the advice... lol
P.S. do note that it wasnt a "fck up" move, and its fairly easy to fix, but if she is talking to another guy and is interested in him as well.. he is surely ahead of you in the race now.. Keep that in mind for when you are gaming, not just this girl but all girls.
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I fixed it. I did a little smooth talking and she's putty in my hands.
Why do you keep asking what should you reply???!??!??!?! She's probably taking 20 seconds to reply and you're worrying like hell on what you have to say. Are you by any change insecure and seeking approval? If you are I'd go read some inner game stuff on this website. Don't seek approval from girls...Bluntmaster said:
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Groovy said:
Because I felt like it.
I think the305 was correct... she is probably asking different guys that same question to see who wants her for one reason.
It's a good thing I have game because I lied and convinced her I like her for other reasons and we have a date for the 4th.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
'ill try my best but im not making promises'.Bluntmaster said:
Hehe.
305 has no idea what he's talking about. He has never flirted with a girl to any success. Who are you going to listen to?
And who gives a **** if you ask a friend how you should reply. I ask or swap stories with buddies. Dirty texts and dirty pictures can be shared between guy friends to no shame, this is law!
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305 made a good point. Sometimes you have to talk to them intellectually. After I realized his advice, I got her to agree for a date on the 4th.Ease said:
What are you going to do, be ****y and funny 24X7? Good luck with that.
Bluntmaster: good work man, its good that you had the slip up, because now you know what to do next time a similar situation occurs. you will be able to "read in between the lines"
Remember to keep a balance of being playful along with being "real", that combination creates attraction fast, two qualities women love.
Ease is just one of those people who trolls forums.. don't mind him buddy.
Remember to keep a balance of being playful along with being "real", that combination creates attraction fast, two qualities women love.
Ease is just one of those people who trolls forums.. don't mind him buddy.
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the305 said:
I think sometimes guys take the ****y and funny too far, me included.
One time I was out with this girl I really liked, and instead of being real with her, I just stayed ****y and funny like I didn't give a damn.
It doesn't work that way. Then she was out hopping on other d!cks because I was never real with her.
I won't make the same mistake twice.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.