"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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a girl who likes you but hides it around other men?

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ok i tried my best to make the title but my question is this, in the past i have been with 4 girls who really liked me, girls who i have kissed but never had sex with just because i had no experienced at all. now with each girl whom i had kissed and done a fairly of ****. now when i was around other people, she wouldn't let me to my arms around her, or hold her, or my hand around her waist or shoulder or hold hands or kiss her etc etc. and this happened every time their was a better looking guy 10x more than me. but when we were alone then i was freely to do anything i wanted with her.

so my question is why did the gurls act this way?

now from what i have been reading about pua - if i was to take a guess i would say, 1 thing i learned is that girls are always single as they are always out to seek a better man than what they already have. and or 2. they dont want to be portrayed as sluts? and i cant think of anything else.

whats your opinion?

and the reason i asked is because i have been reading pua for a year now and soon or later i will end up sweeping a girl and giving her a sexual experience of her life from all the sex tips that girls crave for that i have been learning from pua and girl articles themselves. so if she was to act like this during a serious relationship then this can raise a red flag that hints me something is wrong
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If she really likes you why would she hide it around others? Especially guys? Sounds disrespectful to me.
 

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Yeah, I think your definition of "like" isn't realistic.

I kissed plenty of girls and had it go nowhere. It doesn't mean that they like me. They just liked me enough to make out with me for the attention.

You can go out to a club on any weekend and find girls who will make out with you and not f**k you.

So, correct me if I'm wrong, but when I hear your story, I get the image of a guy who made out with a girl. And he thought that making out means more than it really did. So, he tried holding the girl, holding her hand, and doing "boyfriend" type stuff....and the girl was thinking "Christ. We're only making out. Why is this guy all over me?"
 

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Iceberg said:
Yeah, I think your definition of "like" isn't realistic.

I kissed plenty of girls and had it go nowhere. It doesn't mean that they like me. They just liked me enough to make out with me for the attention.

You can go out to a club on any weekend and find girls who will make out with you and not f**k you.

So, correct me if I'm wrong, but when I hear your story, I get the image of a guy who made out with a girl. And he thought that making out means more than it really did. So, he tried holding the girl, holding her hand, and doing "boyfriend" type stuff....and the girl was thinking "Christ. We're only making out. Why is this guy all over me?"
ok your on a roll and on point so let me push it a bit farther. now lets say that shes been your girlfriend for 5 months and when you two are around other people/ and or a men who looks better than you and when you put your arm around her shoulder or waist to show ownership or w/e she has her hands on yours, slowly trying to remove it.

what do you think of this? or what does this mean
 
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cutflow said:
ok your on a roll and on point so let me push it a bit farther. now lets say that shes been your girlfriend for 5 months and when you two are around other people/ and or a men who looks better than you and when you put your arm around her shoulder or waist to show ownership or w/e she has her hands on yours, slowly trying to remove it.

what do you think of this? or what does this mean
It could mean a number of things.

1. She might not feel comfortable showing intimcy in public.
2. She's frigid.
3. She just isn't into you all that much.

You need to ask her, we can't really help you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She's not that into you probably, who knows though.
 
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