You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dadmonson said:Her myspace email;
Obviously a rejection
Me emailing back;
I know the best response to a rejection is no response but I was bored. Do you think I said the right things though? What could I have done better?
LOL. which is why you are where you are. It's not a matter of right or wrong. its a matter of whats important. Myspace is a numbers game. if someone is freaking out over a friend request...then fock em! move on. their loss. I'm not gonna have a debate or conversation about it. I'm gonna keep looking for women who will choose me. I don't want to debate my way into getting on her friend list..who the fock is she? She ain't shyt! That's too much time and effort that could be spent doing something else than worrying about someone who is tripping over some little crap like that.Wolf said:Why's it wrong Warrior? He sent a friend request and she freaked out! Sure she might not screw him but I would've said the same!
Dude I think you are overreacting. I doubt he had oneitis over a girl that he sent a friend request too. His ****y/funny attitude towards her reaction was the way to go in my opinion. I would of said something along the lines of "Yea well the reason I sent you a friend request is because I want to know if I can come to the wedding."Warrior74 said:you know the right thing to do and you refuse to do it. This is why you fail.
your fragile little ego has to get in a parting shot. Be honest man. You gotta be honest with yourself first and formost. YOu know what you could have done better, you could have left it alone and moved on. The fact that you are still thinking about it enough to post it on sosauve shows that it bruised your ego. I got friends like you, yall know what to do but make all sorts of EXCUSES to do it.
Stop making excuses for your bad behavior and just correct it. "I was bored" bytch please! You wasn't bored...you were butthurt. If you were bored you coulda been messaging 20 more girls on myspace, but you are fixated on this one. YOu could have deleted her message and moved on...but you didn't.
Just like women, you judge a man by his actions and not by his words. And your words and actions don't match up playboy. Look inside and fix what made you even come to this particularly sad episode. Good luck.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You ever think maybe he just doesn't care?Warrior74 said:This from a guy who calls himself guywhoneedshelp. I'm giving you some help. The point is to look at his own mentality. Nobody said anything about oneitis. I don't know how you pulled that out your ass. You guys take real talk as overracting. Instead of looking at the entire situation critically and asking questions critically.. you questions such as....
if you know what to do, why aren't you doing it? If you know the best thing to do is to move on, why are you still trying?
if its some random girl, why are you posting about it?
If it doesn't matter then why bring it up? what, do u just want attention?
why are you making excuses for what you are doing? what does that say about the type of man you are?
these are critical questions, that when you ask them on this forum people tell you to calm down or you are overreacting. But if a person wants help..they should be asking these critical questions...this isn't about one myspace post, this is about your mindset and worldview. AFCs and alot of my loser friends who aren't good with women do this whole "experiment" type crap as a way of being passive agressive, or trying to dissaciate themselves from their actions that they know are wrong but continue to do anyway. when you call them out on their BS they go with ..oh i was bored, or oh I didn't care anyway. And you know they really did. because why else would they be prattling on about it?
to the OP don't run now. Don't ask for it to be locked. use this opportunity to look at why you did the things you did and why you even bothered to post this.
this is the essence of becoming a dj. understanding yourself and your motivations for real. not hiding behind excuses.
Not wasting your time with a response.dadmonson said:I know the best response to a rejection is no response but I was bored. Do you think I said the right things though? What could I have done better?
There you have it. I find it kind of intriguing that she responded to you instead of just blocking you but just leave it be dadmonson. #41 said it all.#41 said:Not wasting your time with a response.
Myspace, Facebook, Craigslist -- whatever, they're all a numbers game. You'll run into 10, 20, 30 women like this for every one that is receptive to the game you're running. When you do meet one like this, the best thing to do is just move on.
dadmonson said:Her myspace email;
Obviously a rejection
Me emailing back;
I know the best response to a rejection is no response but I was bored. Do you think I said the right things though? What could I have done better?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
So what...Jaggs said:That chicks opinion of you is even more lowered now.
So says the guy with a 1000+ posts and counting. Whatever man.Michele said:You know what I find funny... and you can easily tell who the online "geeks" are and who aren't?
The online "geek" responds to people by quoting and breaking down what the other people/person say, then responds, with some bitter or "sarcastic" tone.
The people who aren't "geeks", just respond like they would in a real life situation.
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First, don't respond to regular non-online type of people with those quotations like that... they'll think you're bitter and/or have too much time to analyze what they just said.
Second, you try too hard, and you're easy to see through.
So says the guy that's been here since 2004. Who has no game. Who cannot interact over the internet to a female. Where you have plenty of time to think of a decent reply. Who has no game, is too eager, is too desperate to even come up with a decent reply.dadmonson said:So says the guy with a 1000+ posts and counting. Whatever man.
dadmonson said:So says the guy with a 1000+ posts and counting. Whatever man.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.