"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A girl in my class

karli

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Hey guys!

There's this girl in my class whom I've been talking with a lot recently, she told me that she'd call me anytime, we've been texting in class etc.
She used to be in a relationship when we started talking. For 2.5 years in fact but now she broke up with him a couple of days ago. She was sad but seems to be over it now. We've got a lot in common etc and she seems to be into me.

We didn't talk much today at school and after school totally out of blue she asks me on Facebook why I'm talking to her all the time. What the **** is that? I don't understand it.

(when we started talking at first my goal was to just become good friends with her but it has kinda escalated because of her, she even kissed me at a party when I was actually talking to someone else)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Skyline

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I feel like im the only one in this section who recognizes a sh*t test. She knows you didnt talk to her all day and shes just messing with you. If you defended yourself or took her seriously then you failed. Always reply with indifference or something funny when it comes to sh*t tests.


I would proceed with her but be aware of rebound/AW, meaning short term relationship first if anything beyond an FB.
 

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Frayzer said:
I feel like im the only one in this section who recognizes a sh*t test.
Dude you have no need to be so arrogant. I just don't put up with that sort of **** and it works out perfectly fine for me
 

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frayzer got it basically, although I didn't recognize it as a s*** test, I did recognize it as the kind of thing that gets a joke response.
 
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