"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well at least some people support my actions, thanks frayzer and devilking :)
I'll do my best...

we went out today, talked some and came to a conversation where she said, If she was forced to be in a relationship with someone, it would be me. But that was if she had to be, she said she likes the way she is, that's why she doesn't let me kiss her and stuff.
But I have a feeling that if I kiss her Ill change everything.
She trusts me really well now and lets me do pretty much anything to her :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well at least some people support my actions, thanks frayzer and devilking :)
I'll do my best...

we went out today, talked some and came to a conversation where she said, If she was forced to be in a relationship with someone, it would be me. But that was if she had to be, she said she likes the way she is, that's why she doesn't let me kiss her and stuff.
But I have a feeling that if I kiss her Ill change everything.
She trusts me really well now and lets me do pretty much anything to her :)
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2 thoughts, either:

1. danZy is right, she's leading you on

2. she totally likes you, get her drunk and bang... or just escalate and bang her

i can't say which it is, so you'll just have to go for it and hope for #2
 
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Pretty sure she just said that to make you feel better about your self. Have you tried legit escalating with her? I'm talk escalating to se*. Not hugs or bs like that. You're going to have to do something man. "She's not that type of girl" as I've said before. That's bullcrap.
 
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Pretty sure she just said that to make you feel better about your self. Have you tried legit escalating with her? I'm talk escalating to se*. Not hugs or bs like that. You're going to have to do something man. "She's not that type of girl" as I've said before. That's bullcrap.
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I´m afraid that she says those things just because of that yes.. :S
This weekend Ill be seeing her a lot, we will have alcohol and stuff...maybe that will help her a bit :p
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I´m afraid that she says those things just because of that yes.. :S
This weekend Ill be seeing her a lot, we will have alcohol and stuff...maybe that will help her a bit :p
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Help her? You're the one that needs help!
 
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Can't wait 4 this mess to turn out 2 see who will end up dumb :D
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Hey, these guys are only here to help you. You're young and naive - and that's fine, but we've seen this kind of **** repeat itself so many times it's ridiculous.

You may be the one exception to the rule. Sure. So what. She might crack once. It doesn't mean you have any real future there. It also doesn't mean it's worth all the time and effort to get to that point. There is always an exception to the rule, but you can't expect people to talk about that one exception when 99.9% of the time, it's not going to happen.

This is so blatantly a girl that is not interested in you sexually one tiny bit, but you keep persuing it anyway. As I said - she may feel comfortable enough with you to crack one time if she's in the right place and drunk, or something, maybe, at a stretch. But if you expect that to escalate then you're sadly mistaken.

I think you should just do what you want, and forget about coming here for advice if you think you know best. One day you will learn. Experience is the best way.
 
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Can't wait 4 this mess to turn out 2 see who will end up dumb :D
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the odds are against you my friend,

mainly because this is the kind of thing with a 100% success rate in the movies and a 1% success rate in real life
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hello me again.

So she was on vacation for a week and she came home yesterday.
I ignored her a bit when she was not home...and the 2nd day she started to miss me... a lot of messages and stuff.. Then she told me that im not even friendzoned, and maybe someday everything will change. Then she started telling me she loves me.

When she came home, we went to my place at 9 pm for 2 hours we were cuddling together, and I also managed to kiss her. :p
The next day she came to my place...all we did was cuddle in bed and were kissing...
But she has this relationship thing kind of weird... i don't know maybe it will progress after time.

Well at least some progress :)
 
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Go for more girls, this way if it doesnt work with this one youl have alternatives.
 
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Go for more girls, this way if it doesnt work with this one youl have alternatives.
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I did this one...Turned out they were classmates...now they both hate me :p
 
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I did this one...Turned out they were classmates...now they both hate me :p
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Go for another one? there many of them.
 
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man you're acting like women are like car spare parts... you just don't go in a shop and buy a new one..

1 more thing...when we lay in bed and cuddle or something... I kind of get the need for sex...or atleast to touch her in some places.. But she doesn't let me :p Only over the boobs but with the shirt on...
She is kind of afraid of sex and probably of dic*s too :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I know how you feel BPH...but, somehow, I feel like this guy will defy all odds and get somewhere with this chick. How? Remains to be known. But the amount of AFC'ness going on here is quite painful I must say.
 
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this thread is proof that sometimes AFCs do get laid

rsofa, next time you're alone bring alcohol and challenge her to a drinking contest or play a drinking game

make sure to bring the thickest name brand condoms you could find(do you want to be on the next season of 16&pregnant or teen mom?)
 
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this thread is proof that sometimes AFCs do get laid

rsofa, next time you're alone bring alcohol and challenge her to a drinking contest or play a drinking game

make sure to bring the thickest name brand condoms you could find(do you want to be on the next season of 16&pregnant or teen mom?)
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He didn't get laid...after several months he got a kiss...a kiss...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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