"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hello,
me and my friends go out every weekend, there is also a girl with us that I really like, but she doesnt like me back. just as a friend. ive done a lot for her and we hang out/talk on fb or phone a lot. 24/7.

Now because she doesnt want me...im getting insane. triend asking her why, she just replies with i dont know why i dont want you.
I just cant live like that anymore. some say let her go.
how? i see her every weekend, my friends dont want her to go away. she is all I have. and there is no way i can accept her just as a friend.


help me somehow?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Have some self respect. Does this girl have control over your life? Over your happiness? Are you a man, or a puppy dog, that has to follow her around even after she tells you she doesn't want you back. Where are your balls? Are they with you, giving you energy to go find a girl, or did you hand them over to her as soon as she answered a phone call?

Make yourself happy.
 
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she is actually not taking over no part of me... she aint using me and she event doesnt want me to do anything for her because she thinks that she is just taking advantage of me.
 
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dud first thing you need to do, stop the desperation, why would she want to offer you anything if you are willing to give to her anything without she even ask,

then stop talking with her, make yourself busy, even if that mean you will spend you whole night playing XBOX stop talking with her, if she try to talk to you say oh hi, can't talk now i'm busy, I recommend you go out and do anything with other friends, anything, find a somthing to do, gym, study, any other things. go ghost here on her.

find another girl, move on and get your things together, go after other woman it will save you, your mind, you bank account, your time.

and I don't want excuses saying it she is not like that, she do'nt care about you amybe in a year or 2 she will notice you and if you did all things right you won't care because you give her a chance she blown it up now you don't have time.

and the last thing I will say, don't make yourself a fool, you know pretty well you are doing several mistakes here but want someone to say you are doing right, well you are NOT.
 
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Youre on the phone 24/7 with her?

You have put yourself in a vice grip called the friendzone. Not the friendzone you can get out of by being more assertive and NCing her.. but the friendzone where youre pretty much ****ed.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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@Alvafe
Good one :)
Funny thing we had an argument about me being friendzoned, and then she stopped talking to me, now she went on a trip for a week and came back crying to say goodbye :p
I will see what I can do:p

@SpazzAttackk
TruE!
I know i am an idiot. :D :(
 
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its not what you can do, it you will do, ignore her, she came crying to you, you tell her sorry don't have time, don't spend so much time on the phone too.

I told you what you should do, last thing I can say is READ THE DJ BIBLE. and don't want you losing time with her again
 
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Am hi. Me again.

We went out like 4times in a row. She actually let me hold her and hug her. She told me this friendship is going in a strange way (she said that in a joke)
I think that if I continue what I do , i can get her in a month...
 
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ok, fine we told you and you ignored.... gonna learn the hard way, keep us informed anyway
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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We went out again, I asked for a hug and I got a big one, we sat for maybe 3mins in thehug, she was ... I dont know how to say it but she pushed her head on my chest and caressing me... Then she looked in my eyes, that was the point where I freezed, maybe I could get a kiss. Later she let me hold her and everything....
Sorry my english skills stop at some point, I hope you understood what I meant.
 
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omg... Why is everyone telling me this? :S

Shes not acting like she wants to be friends....
 
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I will!
Today we are going out and I bought her a gift (ok I will) and then we will go to my place.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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why not?
It's one year since I met her :D
Just some chocolate..
 
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@PBH

She is what? :D sorry I dont know what is blatantly chumpy :p

Im not afraid, I think she is...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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