"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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hello,
me and my friends go out every weekend, there is also a girl with us that I really like, but she doesnt like me back. just as a friend. ive done a lot for her and we hang out/talk on fb or phone a lot. 24/7.

Now because she doesnt want me...im getting insane. triend asking her why, she just replies with i dont know why i dont want you.
I just cant live like that anymore. some say let her go.
how? i see her every weekend, my friends dont want her to go away. she is all I have. and there is no way i can accept her just as a friend.


help me somehow?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Have some self respect. Does this girl have control over your life? Over your happiness? Are you a man, or a puppy dog, that has to follow her around even after she tells you she doesn't want you back. Where are your balls? Are they with you, giving you energy to go find a girl, or did you hand them over to her as soon as she answered a phone call?

Make yourself happy.
 
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she is actually not taking over no part of me... she aint using me and she event doesnt want me to do anything for her because she thinks that she is just taking advantage of me.
 
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dud first thing you need to do, stop the desperation, why would she want to offer you anything if you are willing to give to her anything without she even ask,

then stop talking with her, make yourself busy, even if that mean you will spend you whole night playing XBOX stop talking with her, if she try to talk to you say oh hi, can't talk now i'm busy, I recommend you go out and do anything with other friends, anything, find a somthing to do, gym, study, any other things. go ghost here on her.

find another girl, move on and get your things together, go after other woman it will save you, your mind, you bank account, your time.

and I don't want excuses saying it she is not like that, she do'nt care about you amybe in a year or 2 she will notice you and if you did all things right you won't care because you give her a chance she blown it up now you don't have time.

and the last thing I will say, don't make yourself a fool, you know pretty well you are doing several mistakes here but want someone to say you are doing right, well you are NOT.
 
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Youre on the phone 24/7 with her?

You have put yourself in a vice grip called the friendzone. Not the friendzone you can get out of by being more assertive and NCing her.. but the friendzone where youre pretty much ****ed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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@Alvafe
Good one :)
Funny thing we had an argument about me being friendzoned, and then she stopped talking to me, now she went on a trip for a week and came back crying to say goodbye :p
I will see what I can do:p

@SpazzAttackk
TruE!
I know i am an idiot. :D :(
 
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its not what you can do, it you will do, ignore her, she came crying to you, you tell her sorry don't have time, don't spend so much time on the phone too.

I told you what you should do, last thing I can say is READ THE DJ BIBLE. and don't want you losing time with her again
 
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Am hi. Me again.

We went out like 4times in a row. She actually let me hold her and hug her. She told me this friendship is going in a strange way (she said that in a joke)
I think that if I continue what I do , i can get her in a month...
 
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ok, fine we told you and you ignored.... gonna learn the hard way, keep us informed anyway
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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We went out again, I asked for a hug and I got a big one, we sat for maybe 3mins in thehug, she was ... I dont know how to say it but she pushed her head on my chest and caressing me... Then she looked in my eyes, that was the point where I freezed, maybe I could get a kiss. Later she let me hold her and everything....
Sorry my english skills stop at some point, I hope you understood what I meant.
 
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omg... Why is everyone telling me this? :S

Shes not acting like she wants to be friends....
 
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I will!
Today we are going out and I bought her a gift (ok I will) and then we will go to my place.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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why not?
It's one year since I met her :D
Just some chocolate..
 
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@PBH

She is what? :D sorry I dont know what is blatantly chumpy :p

Im not afraid, I think she is...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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