"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A girl bought me a Valentine gift.

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There is this girl i know, shes about a HB6.5. Am not reallly attracted to her and as far as i know we are just friends but yesterday she call me and told me she got me a Valentine gift, i should have come and pick it up rightthere so i dont have to get her anything but too late for that. I told her that i would come friday, now that i have time till then. I know she'll expect something from me too.

My problem is that i dont know what she wants from me, is this gift it just as a friend to a friend thing or she wants something more and buying a gift for her now would be wierd cause i told her i dint get her anything and now after i know shes getting me something then i decided to get her something? the meaning isnt there anymore because it just about returning the favour....

What are you guys suggestions?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You're on the "other side" of the equation now. Now you know what it's like when unattractive guys buy girls stuff to try to win their favor. You feel OBLIGATED to do something for her and that makes you uncomfortable, because you don't really WANT to buy her a gift.

You should just tell her it's sweet of her, but you only like her as a friend and don't think it'd be appropriate for you to accept it, even though you're flattered by it.

I dunno exactly WHAT to say, but you want to get the point across that:

-The gift is appreciated
-You are not interested

End of story. If you buy her something back, she will assume that there is SOME interest on your part. Dont' do that to her. It might seem cruel in the short run, but it's better for her in the long run. :)
 
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Now you know what it's like when unattractive guys buy girls stuff to try to win their favor.
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It's about time women start to feel what this is like. :) I think women should be legaly obligated to offer a sympathy **** to any doorma... I mean, guy that buys them something.

But, attractive is relative, so....

-Al
 
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re: learn from this

No, take it! This is the best time to learn what you did / behaviro made her want to chase after you and buy you a gift so that you can apply it to someone you like.

The way I see it, false hopes, not spending too much time with her, acting disinterested, these are all DJ techniques. Learn!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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YOU ARE UNDER NO OBLIGATION TO GET HER ANYTHING!

You two aren't dating, so this gift is "just a friend thing". If you want to make sure she understands this, then tell her: "Wow! This is like the fourth present I got from a girl this week."

Then shake her hand & walk away. Trust me, she'll never buy you anything again.:cool:
 
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