A girl (29, hot, African American) saw my pics on instagram and invited me out to lunch/dinner

[taiyuu_otoko]

How do you recommend I work on this?

Whenever you're trying to think of a proper response (e.g. one that increases her attraction), choose the SAME RESPONSE you would have AS IF you had ten girls that would come over and bang you at a moment's notice.

Kind of like a "What would Jesus do" response, only it's a "what would I do if I had a harem of horny hot girls."

Would you call or text or whatever right away if you had a harem of horny hot girls?

No you would not.

By behaving AS IF you have a harem of hot horny girls, the only girls you actually WILL encounter are ones that are ALREADY attracted to you.

Whenever you're out in public, act as if you've got a harem of hot horny girls back at home.

THAT will make you the most attractive.

Carefree, outcome independent, relaxed, in the moment, authentic, etc.

 

[BornStunner]

Whenever you're trying to think of a proper response (e.g. one that increases her attraction), choose the SAME RESPONSE you would have AS IF you had ten girls that would come over and bang you at a moment's notice.

Kind of like a "What would Jesus do" response, only it's a "what would I do if I had a harem of horny hot girls."

Would you call or text or whatever right away if you had a harem of horny hot girls?

No you would not.

By behaving AS IF you have a harem of hot horny girls, the only girls you actually WILL encounter are ones that are ALREADY attracted to you.

Whenever you're out in public, act as if you've got a harem of hot horny girls back at home.

THAT will make you the most attractive.

Carefree, outcome independent, relaxed, in the moment, authentic, etc.

****ing amazing. Thanks!

 

[lizardking82]

Whenever you're trying to think of a proper response (e.g. one that increases her attraction), choose the SAME RESPONSE you would have AS IF you had ten girls that would come over and bang you at a moment's notice.

Kind of like a "What would Jesus do" response, only it's a "what would I do if I had a harem of horny hot girls."

Would you call or text or whatever right away if you had a harem of horny hot girls?

No you would not.

By behaving AS IF you have a harem of hot horny girls, the only girls you actually WILL encounter are ones that are ALREADY attracted to you.

Whenever you're out in public, act as if you've got a harem of hot horny girls back at home.

THAT will make you the most attractive.

Carefree, outcome independent, relaxed, in the moment, authentic, etc.

I see where you're going with this, but faking it until he makes won't work for this guy. He doesn't need to have a harem of hot girls. He needs to work on himself, on his life, find out what he really enjoyes (and that is not women) and he will see how everything in his life will become easier and more natural, including relations with women.

 

[beforeimgone]

You completely fell into her frame. the fact that you blew off your friend to meet her was your fatal mistake. everything else after was just a symptom. black american women are used to black american guys who are typically pretty fukkin alpha here in the states and dont take sh1t from their women.

you also tipped the waiter as a form of appeasement to her. you should have said "look im Nigerian, we DONT tip waiters here its just not the culture, if you want to do it then go ahead and ill pay for my own part of the meal, i really dont give a fuk but im not gonna tip the guy because your pouting, comprende? "

Goddvmn right

I go mountain hiking on weekends and I share my pictures on instagram, every weekend.

She saw the pictures and chatted me up saying she wanted to come. I gave her the details and my phone number in case she wanted to contact me.

She sent me an SMS, I replied her on whatsapp.

We started chatting.

About an hour later, when I was going out to see a female friend, she called me...but I missed her call.

Some Context: I'm a Nigerian in Nigeria. She's from Houston. We were in Abuja, Nigeria where she had some business. Funny enough it was with the company I work with. I look good. Talll, big, not overly sex dripping. But good enough to make a lady stare for a few moments.

I'll continue.

I called her back as I drove out. This was when she told me she was heading out to eat. My friend's place was not far from the area, and I told her this. She then said let's meet up. I wanted to see my friend first, then see her. The times clashed and I told her we would not be able to meet up. She insisted that I should see her first before seeing my friend.

I thought...what the hell...OK.

I went and we met. We talked, but there was some tension towards the end, based on our different backgrounds. For example, in Nigeria we regularly tip security men,cleaners, artisans and bouncers, but rarely waiters. It's not just something you see.

This caused some tension 'cause she paid for the food and asked me to tip the waited. I had no issues tipping the waiter, but I have never tipped waiters before. We discussed about this and her mood fell, because she was once a waiter in the USA.

I tipped the waiter.

As we left she was back in better spirits.

Note that she's hot, but there wasn't much feminity in her behaviour. And I called bull**** on many things she said.

As we walked out of the spot, she complained about how far I parked my car...which was a 2-minute walk on a slow walk. I didn't know the place too well and I told her this, but didn't take her giving me **** about it.

I dropped her off nearby, where she was going to see her female friend. As she left, she told me to call her later.

I called her later that night, she didn't pick.
I sent her a whatsapp message, she didn't respond.

All this was on Sunday.

Today, being Wednesday, I sent her a whatsapp message, with just her name.

She replied that she was not interested in talking to me.

I asked why.

She replied we are completely different. Different lanes.

I replied that I was returning the courtesy of the date.

She replied that she was aggressive enough and would have replied earlier if she wanted to.

I replied her, ended the chat and deleted her contact details from my phone.



My question: The only thing I like about her is her looks. She's curvy and all. But her personality was a turn off for me. So, all I was interested in was sex...nothing else.

Is there anything I could have done better to change the outcome?

I predominantly fvck with black women and I move fast. I like to be completely rejected and creep her out or have her on my dvck. Most black women are stronger because they've had to face more adversity than white men white women and black men. There's less room for error.

Your mistake was not taking her obvious signals and fvcking her. Also, never let her call the shots unless they're hinged on your opinion.