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A Friend's GF situation

DJDamage

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This question isn't regarding me but a friend of mine.

My friend is in his late 20's and he has a g/f in her early 20's for about 2 years now. Everything was going great until she recently decided to pursue a modeling job (she was a college student up until now). He isn't thrilled about it and they are getting into arguments over it.

At first I thought he was acting a bit “insecure” but he explained the situation farther into more detail. When she first started, he was supposed to pick her after a shoot for dinner. She gave him an address to some private home for the shoot and when he arrived nobody was answering the door. So he waited outside pissed and couldn't reach her on her cell. About 30 minutes later she calls him up saying that they moved the location into a downtown alleyway and if he could meet her there. So he drives down there and there in a dark alley he sees her dressed like a ho' (think Christina Aguilera lady marmalade) standing in front of a sports car and hugging the bare chest of a male model while the photographer was taken pictures. He had to wait there some more time looking at his girl hugging this guy, until the shoot was over and by that time it was already late going out for dinner.

So anyway he takes her back to his place and he was pissed at the hassle and to the reasons as to why is she now getting into this whole world and dressing like a ho for cheap thrill (he never asked her directly to stop).

Those statements caused her to be very upset and she cried but she is still going to do the modeling despite the strain this has caused.

Now what do you think of all this? There does seem to be an association with a profession a woman chooses to have and the kind of woman she becomes. Let’s face it, if you are in LTR with a woman, the last thing you want her is to become either a stripper or a barmaid and modeling is not that far behind either of those professions.
 

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Lets face it she's pretty much living every chicks dream job, and at her age she's got alot more "living" to do. At his age he should know better to be caught up with her sh!t, the care factor sounds way to high, his expectations of a partner are way to high for her to reciprocate.
That's what I also thought. Younger women just want to have fun and are a bad choice for LTR.
 

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DJDamage said:
That's what I also thought. Younger women just want to have fun and are a bad choice for LTR.
Yah, It's like he's giving her a Rubicks cube and telling her shes got an hour to solve it, then at 62 minutes he gets angry.....meanwhile she hasn't even picked it up yet.
 

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I think its fine that she wants to pursue this type of career. but the issue isnt the career. the issue is the RESPECT that needs to be established.

she asked him to pick her up, she should be ready or atleast inform him of anychanges in plans rather than having her not answer her phone.

thats the issue, not the job.

its very tricky when your women steps on these boundries. if he doesnt handle this correctly, then you can be assured that she wont have a problem ignoring his issues in the future
 

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DJDamage said:
When she first started, he was supposed to pick her after a shoot for dinner. She gave him an address to some private home for the shoot and when he arrived nobody was answering the door. So he waited outside pissed and couldn't reach her on her cell.
He should have done a 180 at THIS point and gone home or wherever. SHe was treating him like a doormat and a chump by expecting him to track her after this point - DISRESPECT.
BY continuing to follow her around after this he was essentially rewarding bad behavior and that always guarantees more of the same.

WE live and and learn .
 

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we don't have nearly enough info about this couple but I can tell you that every web site in town hires "models" to do shoots like this. It's a scam. You see the ads on craigslist all the time. It's a way for guys to scam up good looking naive women promising modeling careers. meanwhile there is lots of changing clothes and kino going on. What she was doing was the biggest cliche in the book, modeling in skimpy clothes in front of a sports car. We don't have enough info but what little we have does not look good for our boy.
 

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'Those statements caused her to be very upset and she cried but she is still going to do the modeling despite the strain this has caused.'

a man is only as good as his options. show me the woman a man sleeps with and i will tell you his valuation of himself. etc.
 

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It sounds like your friend is playing the role of the jealous girlfriend: He's following her around and sulking while she goes on with her life, then *****ing to her about it at the end of the day. By making the issue about her JOB (which is likely her "dream job"), he's giving her an easy way to branch swing without guilt.

When a young woman gets involved in a world of shady business--be it stripping, drugs, sketchy modeling gigs, etc.--you have to realize that your attempts to dissuade her are only going to strengthen her curiosity. If it's a serious issue to you, you need to just drop her while you still have the power. THATS the only way to get her to possibly reverse course.

It's too late for this girl, though. She's already made modeling her top priority, and your friend has lost control of the situation. I'd wager that he'll either continue to push the issue and drive her further away, or supplicate and act like he's cool with it until she drops him.

Whenever a girl enters a new stage of her career or experiences a great success, this issue usually comes up. The smart guys are the ones that see it coming and don't let it give her the power in the relationship.
 

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Jeffst1980 said:
It's too late for this girl, though. She's already made modeling her top priority, and your friend has lost control of the situation. I'd wager that he'll either continue to push the issue and drive her further away, or supplicate and act like he's cool with it until she drops him.
Yeah you might be right, especially the choices in the matter which are a double edged swords.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

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DJDamage said:
So anyway he takes her back to his place and he was pissed at the hassle and to the reasons as to why is she now getting into this whole world and dressing like a ho for cheap thrill (he never asked her directly to stop)........the last thing you want her is to become either a stripper or a barmaid and modeling is not that far behind either of those professions.

Are you kidding?

Your boy sounds jealous, point blank.

Every woman DREAMS of being the next supermodel. It's like a guy dreaming of being the next Richard Branson.

Is she likely to ever make it that far? Hell no, but that's beside the point. Would you want some b!tch nagging at you because you are working extra hours trying to become the next Branson?

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we don't have nearly enough info about this couple but I can tell you that every web site in town hires "models" to do shoots like this. It's a scam. You see the ads on craigslist all the time. It's a way for guys to scam up good looking naive women promising modeling careers. meanwhile there is lots of changing clothes and kino going on. What she was doing was the biggest cliche in the book, modeling in skimpy clothes in front of a sports car. We don't have enough info but what little we have does not look good for our boy.
My first reaction was to correct you, but after thinking about it for a second I'm sure you are partially right.

I have gotten models from craigslist. They will basically work for free. only a couple of hours worth of work and it's EASY, but yea, the girls do it on the hope that it will lead to something, which in my case it MIGHT, because I put them on tv, I give them a profile page on my website they can put their contact info on, etc. So it is actually a mutually beneficial relationship.

Did she get scammed? Who knows. I'm sure there are unscrupulous characters out there just looking for an angle to get laid. But they aren't ALL scams, so I wouldn't assume such without all of the details.
 

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STR8UP said:
Your boy sounds jealous, point blank.
Yeah I am sure he was jealous too but like every shady business that women use their body to get ahead (no pun), no one likes their LTR to start off in one (since when they met them, they weren't in one). Certain jobs will change women and this could be the case.

I am sure that most people will avoid being in LTR with strippers because they know what kind of B.S they bring along with their shady job/close door industry and they don't want to be a part of that. There is a very high probablity that a women will be sucked into the industry catered to her looks and cheat as a result (or start thinking she is a big star and look for the BBD). I am sure the jealousy comes from a legitimate concern and not because some random guy looked at her.

This was not a craiglist ad, this was a legitimate cultural Magazine where she gets payed for each shoot. I have seen his g/f, she looks good, tall, got a good body and face but nothing to be really crazy about.
 

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Jeffst1980 said:
The smart guys are the ones that see it coming and don't let it give her the power in the relationship.

And you suggest doing that how in both ways:
1. She does the job.
2. You don't want her to do the job.


My ideas are:
1. You actively encourage her and she's like wow he's not jealous what a man.
2. You dump her.

So basically you lose either way because in 1 you have your gf plastered half naked all over town and probably will end up cheating on you anyway because she's a star and you're nobody flashy with your business or engineering degree and thus worthless now in her eyes compared to her... and in 2 you had to dump her.

What a deal. Unless there's other choices where you can win?
I'm no expert.
 

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I am currently in a relationship with a girl that was awesome at first then I helped her get a similar job where she is paid by men to look good and flirt with them. I knew the deal, I helped her get the job so maybe that made it easier for me to deal with. But...

At first she was still great, but she started getting caught up in her own sh!t so I had to dump her a couple times (with her begging to get me back) before she finally chilled out.

Let it go, if it comes back to you its yours, if it doesn't it never was.


The only con of this is that you end up making your girl insecure about being with you and always worried about losing you. But bouncing her is the only option.

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