A FR about looks

[ManOMan]

I went out with a friend of mine who is pretty good looking (He always hooks up with any girl he wants, and usually does)

and usually when we meet girls, they are usually are more interested in him than me

So he meets a HB9, that is drunk and ALL over him, I feel a little inferior, because I try to talk to her and she is unresponsive and only interested in my friend. Mind u, my friend also has a great personality and is also very C/F.

So I just decide to lay low and forget that "looks matter", at that moment I was feeling kinda low, that she wouldnt even talk to me unless I was like Mr. GQ

So fast forward 2 hrs, we are at my friends house with the HB

Im on the couch talking to her(trying to break the awkwardness of sitting on a couch with a HB and not saying a word)

Turns out we have like so much in common, and the conversation turned from small talk to me # closing with her (my friend was busy talking to some dude for like 45 mins)

SHE was kinoing me, asking me q's, and chillin with me, when she could have just gone back and grabbed the other guy she may have been interested in

she even asked me q's like "What did you think of me when you saw me?"

and "do you have a g/f?"

I was a little taken aback. Mostly because she was giving my good looking friend vibes all night. Usually when a girl likes one of your friends, she is SET to score with him no matter what.

But she just ignored him the rest of the night and spent a good hour talking to me. (I wouldnt say Im ugly, Im maybe a 6, 7 or 8, my friend is a 8 or 9 abercrombie looking model-like)

But my point is, looks arent all that matter, sure uts crucial for attraction, but I almost dismissed a girl because I was convinced she wasnt interested in me.

To be honest, I think if you are in the right situation at the right time and let yer personality flow, thats what it all boils down to in the end.

SHOW girls your personality, and they will open up and become interested. Its NOT all about looks.

Peace

 

[deeloo]

6, 7, or 8.. haha that was a specific rating

anyway looks only matters to a certain extent.. like in your FR here, it gives your friend a headstart. but if you're looking but you don't work on your game, you won't hold any more interest after a while.

Good job.

 

[ManOMan]

Another question I have is

How do you know how good looking you ARE??

Im 28, when I was 21 or 22, I went to clubs and women would com up to ME!! (unbelievable), I didnt even have to try!

I have also seen this with some of my friends who are good looking, women are just sooo much nicer to him

But now that Im older, women no longer walk up to me (well they do , occassionally)

I feel maybe as I age , I have become less attractive, now I have to WORK my personality and assertiveness/confidence to get a girl

I mostly hang out at clubs/bars, where most women are drunk

I have no idea how good looking/ugly I may be

I know I will hear responses like "you are as good looking as you feel" or "assume you are a hot dude!"

But the fact is, I used to gauge my good looks on how easily and friendly women came on to me.

Now I have to switch gears, because since Im older, I cant really tell if a girl is attracted to me or not

How do you guys tell??

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Don't worry manoman, I'm nearly a 10 at 41 and girls never
approached me much, or maybe I didn't get their hints (many say I look stern). My heyday was between the ages of 16-23 (school years - a lot of women).

I think it depends on the setting versus your age - If I was in a college setting it would be much easier - same for you - clubs vs college setting is a major step in the 'type' and the attitude of women who you encounter!

I honestly believe that there are very few people who are outlandishly good looking to everyone. 90% of the people are in a low to high end average. 'Beauty' truly is in the eye of the beholder!

Nowadays., I personally see very few, if any, beautiful women, whether in physical form or in terms of personality!!!

 

[deeloo]

^ do you have pictures that I can see? I wanna see what a 10 looks like.

 

[ManOMan]

hah PRL rules,

even if he isnt a 10 in some girls eyes, he feels like a 10

I wish I could accomplish that

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Deeloo,

I have a thread out there titled "I have a Yahoo personal ad" or something like that...my pics are in there...do a search under my user id and look for the threads I started.

 

[deeloo]

i just looked at it.. not bad.. i cant judge guys but you're more on the masculine side i guess.. not pretty boy looks.. the first picture with the mustache made me laugh though.. you looked like hitler.. but other than that.. you're cool on the other pics.. got some huge arms too.. nice

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

C'mon Diablo, I look nothing like hitler!!! Huh? ??? Maybe that is why I was getting a lot of responses from women with tattoos of swastikas on their arms and shaved heads.

I rarely wear a mustcache, it is usually trimmed low and is a shadow of one.

I'm 41, my pretty boy looks have slightly matured over the years.
In college, my slogan was "Pretty Boy on the streets, an Animal under the sheets!" You guys can use that one now, it is not befitting of me anymore. Now my slogan is "A Homeless guy on the streets, and a Geriatric under the sheets!"

Oh well, you can't be young forever!

 

[xblitz44x]

"But my point is, looks arent all that matter, sure uts crucial for attraction, but I almost dismissed a girl because I was convinced she wasnt interested in me."

What people aren't understanding is, what one girl thinks is a *good look*, another might not think. And vice versa. Being visually appealing matters, greatly. People on this board don't like to accept that though because they assume they aren't 'universally attractive' or whatever and would lose hope if they were to accept that.

If this girl is willing to sleep with you, she thinks you are 'good looking'. Whether or not you do, or another 20 girls do is irrelevant. This chick does. And instead of trying to figure out what she could possibly be interested in because you feel it can't possibly be your looks, you should give yourself more credit and see that beauty is a perception.

If she only warmed up to you after you 'demonstrated personality' or whatever term you want to give it, it's not because she didn't like your looks but likes your personality...it's because whatever threat you posed when she was blowing you off, was neutralized. Or perhaps she was never blowing you off but since she didn't jump all over you, you just *assumed* that she wanted nothing to do with you and wasn't attracted to you. And your assumption was based on the flawed paradigm that your friend is good looking and you aren't.


Good job, and good luck with whatever you want to happen.