"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A fixer upper?

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What do you guys think about fixer uppers? By that I mean a girl who is a good LTR prospect but could gain a couple HB points by tightening things up in the gym (i.e. working on her butt a bit) and who is a little boring in the bedroom for my liking. I’d say she’s a 6 and could definitely get to 7 or 8 with some work.

She’s already said she wants to get some fake boobs, so that’ll help. She’s great to be around and not crazy (as far as I can tell), but I don’t want to settle if she can’t gain a point at least and I can’t teach her to spice it up in the sects category.

It’s been about 4 months of dating and she asked to go exclusive…
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bingo-Player

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A 6 isn't going to an 8 without a lot of plastic surgery

Also worth noting a woman is at her peak value whilst single , this is when she's making the most effort too attract a partner

Its very rare a woman is going to increase in value WHILST in a relationship if anything they let themselves go ( we all do)

IF anything its more likely when you split up she will have more impetus too try and gain a point

If you aren't satisfied with her at this stage its highly unlikely you will be satisfied later down the line especially when it comes to sex
 

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By that I mean a girl who is a good LTR prospect but could gain a couple HB points by tightening things up in the gym
I think it's a good plan.

One of the most predictable things about women is that after they get into a relationship they tend to get into pretty good shape.
 

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Not for me. She is more likely to continue heading in the direction she is than to change course and go in the other direction.

People really do "want" to change, but unless that translates into actual actions it's just a nice thought and a pipedream.

That's where it ends for most people.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If both her and you think your smv is higher, then you can manage it how you think best.
 

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If both her and you think your smv is higher, then you can manage it how you think best.
This is the case and I tend to agree. While the others are correct too, you can’t “fix” someone else, I’ve heard you can train a woman to keep it tight and perform in the bedroom if you keep good frame and she wants to impress/satisfy you.

I’m outta town for 2 weeks and she texted me today saying she’s “been in the gym everyday so you could say I’m gonna be pretty hot when you get back”. I like her attitude
 

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Hell no. She will only work on her fitness until she gets what she wants. Women are notorious for that.

And once she gets back to being Fatty McFatthighs she will accuse you of not accepting her for who she is. She'll have 100 excuses of why she can't work out.
 

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It's possible, I've had some chicks who felt huge need to get in extra shape once we started dating and she needed my approval and satisfaction with her.

But you need to be in top shape yourself, so that you can expect from her what you give her. Otherwise you are screwed.

Also, a 6 with plastic surgeries becomes a 2.

Edit: None of these chicks got much hotter, but they tried.
 
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Hell no. She will only work on her fitness until she gets what she wants. Women are notorious for that.

And once she gets back to being Fatty McFatthighs she will accuse you of not accepting her for who she is. She'll have 100 excuses of why she can't work out.
Coming from experience, brotha?

You always buy the car as-is, biggest mistake is thinking what it could be
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Coming from experience, brotha?

You always buy the car as-is, biggest mistake is thinking what it could be
Touché. You should always hold out for the car and trim package you want the first time so you’re not looking to trade it in right away.
 
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