Bawb14 said:
Good post eklipse, But yeah what he says is generaly true. If you're a 3 then in reality, you're a 0. No offence. In fact, its good you'll get farther in life. But still, try and take it easy with girls that you hang out with, they will appreciate it more. Try not to go for the macho jerk approach, but for the sensitive intelligent type. Talk to them, and really get into them before they can begin to get into you. Just start talking and let go, just talk talk talk, works every time. Dont dominate the conversation let her get a few words in edgewise and really try to give the vibe that you are digging her and that you really understand what theyre saying even if it seems like BULLSH1t at the time. Some guys get away with being rude ****s and girls love it, but its not your approach buddy. Stickwith the basics and you'll feel yourself more confident and your game to such a level that party-hooking up will be NO problem, but dont plan on it and dont go for it first time you try, or trust me results NOT guaranteed! Good luck in your romantic affairs Junior pickupartist.
I have serious doubts about this. You're telling me that if I just talk intellectually/emotionally with a girl and build no kind of sexual tension she will want to hook up? You're telling me that if I do those things you mentioned, I'll get girls?
Well, as a matter of fact, I
used to do that. Know why its only
used to? Because it didn't work. The exact opposite happened, she wanted me to hang out as her lapdog "he's just a friend" thing. As the sensitive intelligent type, it was me she turned to when she wanted to talk about girl problems and what guys she actually wanted to bang at parties. I ran like hell, to say the least.
Please,
please give us a semi-detailed account of when this advice has been effective. I'm guessing the "results not garunteed" is french for "this has never worked for me".
There is some theory that attraction goes in steps. The steps are Attraction--->Comfort--->Sex. The problem a lot of guys have, including this guy and including myself at some point, is that they approach it with Comfort--->Attraction--->Sex in mind. But that doesn't work. ****, I'll just link to the theory.
http://ladderwiki.com/w/index.php/M3_Model
You know, you can still be an intelligent and sensitive person who can be the rude *******. Remember that when you are being a rude *******, its a
joke. Thats why you do it with a big smile and a laugh -its just teasing. You don't need to actually be an *******, just adopt some ******* type qualities to your existing personallity. This has worked a lot better for me in many, many ways.
I imagine most guys who say getting sprung during a dance is weird and awkward are uncomfortable with themselves. As someone said, she is rubbing you with her ass, if you get hard, thats nice. Just be comfortable with it.
So about the whole "badness" scale... how do you measure your badness, and how bad is it ideal to be? What qualities make you a badass?
For now, I'll try a hypothetical scale.
1)Preist (well... a preist that actually follows the rules)
10)Drug dealer with criminal record and three kids by three women
What qualities and characteristics make you "bad". We don't have to actually make a scale... I'm just wondering. Does drinking make you "bad", even though its kind of the norm, even in high school? Smoking? Just wondering what you guys think.
