"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A few questions about ****y & Funny

Demystify

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1. How do I find things to make fun of the girl for?

2. How do I get good at finding the right things to make fun of her for over the wrong things to make fun of her for?

3. Should I worry about being too mean?

4. How do I pull of ****y and funny without being awkward?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BongDuy

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1. How do I find things to make fun of the girl for?

you just have to become a good listener and observer. if she says something like " let's do it", you could reply with a " do it here? now? you haven't even taken me out on a date yet "

2. How do I get good at finding the right things to make fun of her for over the wrong things to make fun of her for?

If it doesn't make her laugh, chances are the ****y and funny role didn't go through very well.

3. Should I worry about being too mean?

^^^ check number 2. but no, you shouldn't worry too much about being mean. Bust her balls, and tease her. Let her know just because she's cute that you won't put up with her sh1t

4. How do I pull of ****y and funny without being awkward?

Practice? As it becomes more into your personality, it should become easier and flow naturally. focus on your tone. are you smiling while you say it? are you giving her a straight face when you say something? It's more about the body language than what you're saying.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Demystify said:
1. How do I find things to make fun of the girl for?

2. How do I get good at finding the right things to make fun of her for over the wrong things to make fun of her for?

3. Should I worry about being too mean?

4. How do I pull of ****y and funny without being awkward?
C&F is VERY VERY VERY powerful when used right.

1. - Everything you notice about her can be turned into a joke.
Even something as trivial as, say, "wow you're laughing a lot, are you high on laughing gas?"
(If she protests, you've done well.)

2. There are no wrong things! Try not to be mean though. It's not a bad thing if you are unintentionally mean to her, but you MUST apologize and say you took it too far. That's a responsibility.

3. See #2. Overall rule: never worry about anything.

4. Okay I think you need a new mindset on this one. If you AREN'T using C&F, you're probably acting like a nice guy. Awkwardness? Nice guys are awkward, bad boys who use C&F are not. Btw re-read #3.


Hope this helps.
 
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The only time I ever use ****y and funny is the moment I'm alone with the girl and we're talking, leading to sex.. Actually this is quite true, it would come off as rather stupid at an earlier time I'm saying at least that is for me... it's just the right time to act illogical right before sex, hence ****y and funny if she's giving a little resistance, another thing to observe is that I don't act ****y and funny until after the initial kiss and making out, like I said, it just seems like that is the right time to start behaving illogical.. albeit still completely sexually projecting and focused. Everyone might have their own scheme however this is definitely what works for me, and I'm not green, I have sexed enough of a variety of personalities to know what works. You know? Chuch.

Jorge Gonzalez
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ridingthelightning

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Demystify said:
1. How do I find things to make fun of the girl for?

2. How do I get good at finding the right things to make fun of her for over the wrong things to make fun of her for?

3. Should I worry about being too mean?

4. How do I pull of ****y and funny without being awkward?

1. example: "You've got an old lady purse"
I use this if I've built some rapport with a woman and she has one of those huge purses that some women like to carry around.

2. DO NOT talk about a woman's weight. Ever. Even if she brings it up. Especially if she brings it up. This is a sensitivity that women cannot get passed.

3. No, especially not early on. If you offend someone then so what? Life'll go on for them and you and you may have a chance to redeem later. If not, so what?
example: non-offensive depending on the situation... "You do kinda have big feet, but they're still cute."
offensive... "You've got the Shallow Hal long toe." (Remember from shallow hal, jason alexander's character couldn't get over the fact that this girl's 2nd toe was longer than the big toe.

4. Confidence is key. Sometimes you just can't help but step into an awkward situation.
I wish some of these "Don Juans" would post their moments of not-so great glory.
 

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It's in some people naturally. If you are already a funny guy who likes to joke around alot, try finding the ****y elements and add it to your game. However, this would require alot of practice. You can start being C&F with your friends, until you're totally fluid with it. Most importantly, you have to feel extremely comfortable.

Anyway, in response to Ridingthelightning's post, i'd like to know how you guys deal with awkward situations. Maybe, you make a judgment on something, and she begs to differ and makes a rebuttal. And you realise you don't got nothing much to say. What would you do.
 
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