Danger said :As Zarky, Slickster and Backbreaker would say......
You guys are all messed up, bitter, histrionic, (assorted attempts at shaming), etc,....
I honestly do not understand how men can be so blind to the fact they are second class citizens. The white-knight is so strong in people it can be nearly impossible to destroy.
***The bitter realities can be an antidote for men who put women on a pedestal. Once they realize that many women out there are barricudas with unattractive personality traits and are not fit for long term relationships or marriage, it's a very easy way to take them off of that pedestal. It's also a very easy way for a man to realize and appreciate his own worth. Once you realize your own worth and see the negative traits that many women possess, it can free you up to simply stop trying to bend over backwards to please them all of the time.
It also allows you to find the few good women that are out there because you don't waste your time putting up with b.s. from the women that aren't worth your time. At the same time, when you have a healthy optimism along with a balance of healthy skepticism, you won't rush things. You tend to hold back when needed, which, strangely enough, is a characteristic behavior many men run into. Women holding back.
When the behavior is reversed ,for valid, internal reasons that a man believes in, suddenly HE is the one who can hold back. Then when he does meet someone he is attracted to, that tendency to move forward but with caution serves not only to protect himself, but it will usually drive the women crazy that he spends time with and he will experience almost no resistance whatsoever. When he pursues too hard, because of wrong attitudes, she is repulsed. When he enjoys himself and enjoys his time with her, without feeling a sense of desperation, because he knows his worth, not only does he enjoy their interactions more, but she is magnetically drawn to him.