"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A dying Don Juan. MEDIC!

j8snx1

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I feel completely lost right now guys.

Here me out:

Lately, sarging at school...blows. *Note that I am not being TOO picky here* The girls I've dated were either JUST FRIENDS, whether I "befriended" her, or vice versa, hot but taken, not hot but available, or either.

My conversation skills are acceptional; when I talk to my friends, I can have fun. When I talk to girls, I can use the ****y/funny without going out of control, make 'em laugh, etc. However, in big groups, I lack the charisma to make things fun/interesting, usually because I either don't follow with the crap they talk about or because I'm not that close with the group.

The last two days in my 6th period class, the girls I know usually talk about...well...girl talk. I'm the only guy in a class full of 5-8 girls. I try to join in at times, but they act cold and ignore me as they talk about fashion, clothes, guys, models, whatever, so I just do my own sh*t while listening to their endless talking. I have tried squeezing into the convo's and ask open-ended questions regarding their current topic, but they shoot it down with one/two word answers and continue with their sh*t. It pisses me off so I just leave.

I also feel as though my sarging level has dramatically decreased; at times when I talk to certain girls, I just...blank out. I dunno what to say. I start with the small crap, then open it up to bigger and funnier/serious stuff, but these days my tongue gets twisted and I leave the convo at a dead end.

It seems that my confidence, social skills, and self-image has been going down lately. I haven't had field practice for a solid 3 months, and I feel the side-effects of it.

DJ's! What could I do to solve my current problems that I stated above?! I feel like crap and it would mean a lot if you guys gave me some feedback to uplift my spirit.

P.S. Finals are coming up so I refuse to go out and have fun until it's done.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Real Ice Man

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Your problem is that you think too much. Quit over-analyzing everything and just chill out. Trust me, it works.
 

08aisaac

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Well, you could just ignore them, and focus on school for now. I know that's extremely boring, but I do it every day, in hopes of raising my grades.
But like he said, you might be overanalyzing.
 

October

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"Confidence is not knowing that you can do anything, it's knowing that if you can't, it doesn't matter."

-Ripped off of Jester.

Who cares what people think of you, it shouldn't determine whether or not you're happy or confident about yourself. What other people think of you is, for the most part, meaningless. If girls just want to be silly girls...superficial, media-influenced, egotistical, well...let them be that way.
 

Tomatoes

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Your just having a ruff spot mate. A dry time and its having an effect on your self esteem confidence and on your game. You are only focusing on the negatives.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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