"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So my live in girlfriend wants to go to a work dinner party with her girlfriend. Its her girlfriends dinner party and the girl is a bit on the flirty side. I have seen her hand out her number every time all of us have hung out.

I really don't go out with the guys that often and it seems as if she doesn't really want me to as well.

The question is : is going to a work dinner party as her girlfriends date ok or something only single girls do?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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With little detail, sounds innocent enough. Would probably let this one slide. The only troubling thought I have from how you have written it is that she could have just said matter of fact, "I have a work dinner with office people," but instead positioned it as "going as her GFs date to a dinner party." This is a bit too much detail and sounds "positioned" and structured in the good old "but they neeeeeeeeeeeeeed me," common BS appeal to cover things they know involve fishy elements or other details they are going to hide.

"But she just got divorced/broke up/fired/moved/turned down for .../bad day/family crisis... and neeeeeeeeeeds me to go out dressed to the nines to the club!"

IME, TMI, too much detail coming out of women's mouths about their doings is often a sign there is more to the story, and that she is rationalizing something. Could be rationalizing something small and harmless or something more significant.

If you find out that this is not just a work thing, and some spouses/SOs, non employees will be there, then be a little more concerned.
 
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Just go to the party and enjoy yourself.
 
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I don't think that going to a work dinner party with her girlfriend qualifies as disrespect. Could something happen? Sure. Something could always happen. But I think this falls under the umbrella of acceptable risk. I wouldn't sweat it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
IF you trusted her you wouldn't care.

Before you think Im being too judgmental, I dont think many women are worthy of trust anyway so I hardly blame you.

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This is more telling than anything. Either OP has oneitis and needs more poon or he has issues himself.
 
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