a dinner party w friend

[Ryno121]

So my live in girlfriend wants to go to a work dinner party with her girlfriend. Its her girlfriends dinner party and the girl is a bit on the flirty side. I have seen her hand out her number every time all of us have hung out.

I really don't go out with the guys that often and it seems as if she doesn't really want me to as well.

The question is : is going to a work dinner party as her girlfriends date ok or something only single girls do?

 

[dasein]

With little detail, sounds innocent enough. Would probably let this one slide. The only troubling thought I have from how you have written it is that she could have just said matter of fact, "I have a work dinner with office people," but instead positioned it as "going as her GFs date to a dinner party." This is a bit too much detail and sounds "positioned" and structured in the good old "but they neeeeeeeeeeeeeed me," common BS appeal to cover things they know involve fishy elements or other details they are going to hide.

"But she just got divorced/broke up/fired/moved/turned down for .../bad day/family crisis... and neeeeeeeeeeds me to go out dressed to the nines to the club!"

IME, TMI, too much detail coming out of women's mouths about their doings is often a sign there is more to the story, and that she is rationalizing something. Could be rationalizing something small and harmless or something more significant.

If you find out that this is not just a work thing, and some spouses/SOs, non employees will be there, then be a little more concerned.

 

[amoka]

Just go to the party and enjoy yourself.

 

[Ryno121]

she is going with her girlfriend not me

 

[zekko]

I don't think that going to a work dinner party with her girlfriend qualifies as disrespect. Could something happen? Sure. Something could always happen. But I think this falls under the umbrella of acceptable risk. I wouldn't sweat it.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

IF you trusted her you wouldn't care.

Before you think Im being too judgmental, I dont think many women are worthy of trust anyway so I hardly blame you.

.....stuff.......

This is more telling than anything. Either OP has oneitis and needs more poon or he has issues himself.