"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A couple of years of Manning Up

Knight's Cross

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Troops,
Looking back a few years I can hardly believe all the AFC behavior that I was exhibiting. A couple years of SS, hard work, effort, sometimes painfull lesson and I'm a changed man. What did it? The 48 Laws of Power, my e-mails back and forth with some SS members, just pushing myself to be stronger? All the above.
Life is a whole lot better unplugged. Sure I still get $hit tested from time to time. The difference is I SEE it for what it is. The nature of the world. The nature of the female. Want to win the game? Don't play it. That's how to win. I was Necessitous. Yeah, I needed women to want me. Now I don't give a crap. What you see is what you get. Believe it or not that is what has had a woman after me for 7 months. Treating me well, being on my side. That isn't my focus though with this thread. No. Live life to YOUR plan. The woman will come to you. You qualify them. Sure you have to treat them nicely, but live according to your rules, plan, and code, and woman or no you win.
What I've seen countless times here on SS, and at a time I was included....is the all ending quest of things like...."Does she like me"? Please gentlemen...that is not our path. When I realized that if my girlfriend dissapeared from my life and I'd just say..."It was fun". I had found my zen. For we ultimately control just "ourselves". That's it. You are either happy or sad, or fulfilled, or empty solo. That's all you need men.

So rejoice in the solitude, and the zen within. You get there ( and believe me I'm still working at it) and you have MADE IT!

KC
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Welcome back KC....
 

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Great post Knight's Cross.

I for one am glad that you have gotten so much out of the DJ way.
 

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Knight's Cross said:
Troops,
Looking back a few years I can hardly believe all the AFC behavior that I was exhibiting. A couple years of SS, hard work, effort, sometimes painfull lesson and I'm a changed man. What did it? The 48 Laws of Power, my e-mails back and forth with some SS members, just pushing myself to be stronger? All the above.
Life is a whole lot better unplugged. Sure I still get $hit tested from time to time. The difference is I SEE it for what it is. The nature of the world. The nature of the female. Want to win the game? Don't play it. That's how to win. I was Necessitous. Yeah, I needed women to want me. Now I don't give a crap. What you see is what you get. Believe it or not that is what has had a woman after me for 7 months. Treating me well, being on my side. That isn't my focus though with this thread. No. Live life to YOUR plan. The woman will come to you. You qualify them. Sure you have to treat them nicely, but live according to your rules, plan, and code, and woman or no you win.
What I've seen countless times here on SS, and at a time I was included....is the all ending quest of things like...."Does she like me"? Please gentlemen...that is not our path. When I realized that if my girlfriend dissapeared from my life and I'd just say..."It was fun". I had found my zen. For we ultimately control just "ourselves". That's it. You are either happy or sad, or fulfilled, or empty solo. That's all you need men.

So rejoice in the solitude, and the zen within. You get there ( and believe me I'm still working at it) and you have MADE IT!

KC
Absolutely fantastic. Especially the sentence I highlighted. When you realize that b!tches ain't sh!t, that there isn't one of them on the face of this earth that has something you can't get from the next one, you are well on your way to the path of enlightenment.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks all,
NEVER be afraid to walk. It's been said before, but that's what I employ as strategem. You must be comfortable as self. Ever before you will be comfortable with her. Woe to the man that is only comfortable in relationship. HE is a desperate fool.
KC
 

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Bump ! Well put!!!
 
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