"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A couple of years of Manning Up

Knight's Cross

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Troops,
Looking back a few years I can hardly believe all the AFC behavior that I was exhibiting. A couple years of SS, hard work, effort, sometimes painfull lesson and I'm a changed man. What did it? The 48 Laws of Power, my e-mails back and forth with some SS members, just pushing myself to be stronger? All the above.
Life is a whole lot better unplugged. Sure I still get $hit tested from time to time. The difference is I SEE it for what it is. The nature of the world. The nature of the female. Want to win the game? Don't play it. That's how to win. I was Necessitous. Yeah, I needed women to want me. Now I don't give a crap. What you see is what you get. Believe it or not that is what has had a woman after me for 7 months. Treating me well, being on my side. That isn't my focus though with this thread. No. Live life to YOUR plan. The woman will come to you. You qualify them. Sure you have to treat them nicely, but live according to your rules, plan, and code, and woman or no you win.
What I've seen countless times here on SS, and at a time I was included....is the all ending quest of things like...."Does she like me"? Please gentlemen...that is not our path. When I realized that if my girlfriend dissapeared from my life and I'd just say..."It was fun". I had found my zen. For we ultimately control just "ourselves". That's it. You are either happy or sad, or fulfilled, or empty solo. That's all you need men.

So rejoice in the solitude, and the zen within. You get there ( and believe me I'm still working at it) and you have MADE IT!

KC
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Welcome back KC....
 

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Great post Knight's Cross.

I for one am glad that you have gotten so much out of the DJ way.
 

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Knight's Cross said:
Troops,
Looking back a few years I can hardly believe all the AFC behavior that I was exhibiting. A couple years of SS, hard work, effort, sometimes painfull lesson and I'm a changed man. What did it? The 48 Laws of Power, my e-mails back and forth with some SS members, just pushing myself to be stronger? All the above.
Life is a whole lot better unplugged. Sure I still get $hit tested from time to time. The difference is I SEE it for what it is. The nature of the world. The nature of the female. Want to win the game? Don't play it. That's how to win. I was Necessitous. Yeah, I needed women to want me. Now I don't give a crap. What you see is what you get. Believe it or not that is what has had a woman after me for 7 months. Treating me well, being on my side. That isn't my focus though with this thread. No. Live life to YOUR plan. The woman will come to you. You qualify them. Sure you have to treat them nicely, but live according to your rules, plan, and code, and woman or no you win.
What I've seen countless times here on SS, and at a time I was included....is the all ending quest of things like...."Does she like me"? Please gentlemen...that is not our path. When I realized that if my girlfriend dissapeared from my life and I'd just say..."It was fun". I had found my zen. For we ultimately control just "ourselves". That's it. You are either happy or sad, or fulfilled, or empty solo. That's all you need men.

So rejoice in the solitude, and the zen within. You get there ( and believe me I'm still working at it) and you have MADE IT!

KC
Absolutely fantastic. Especially the sentence I highlighted. When you realize that b!tches ain't sh!t, that there isn't one of them on the face of this earth that has something you can't get from the next one, you are well on your way to the path of enlightenment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks all,
NEVER be afraid to walk. It's been said before, but that's what I employ as strategem. You must be comfortable as self. Ever before you will be comfortable with her. Woe to the man that is only comfortable in relationship. HE is a desperate fool.
KC
 

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Bump ! Well put!!!
 
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