"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A couple of questions

Marcopolo

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First, I cannot access the site that was supposed to have the Don Juan Bible, how do you get this book? Second, I have never in my life had multiple sexual partners at the same time, I have always been more of a one woman kind of man. I am curious, when practicing DonJuanism you talk about dating multiple women-does this imply that people also sleep with multiple women? It seems to me that most women at least say they want a serious relationship and expect one if you start sleeping together. I would not mind getting a lot of sex as long as it was understood between both of us what the intentions are. I guess is what I am saying is that I don't have the heart to sleep with a woman and then let her down, but most women seem to at least say they want something serious -probably because either they do or because they do not want to be labeled as a slut. Of course if i did desire to sleep with the women but not necissairly want to have a LTR it seems kind of awkward for me to tell her this directly when I am trying to seduce her. It is probably the worst thing I can do in a seduction. I have been married for most of my adult life and before that had serial LTR's. Now I am going all out and have lost track of how amny numbers I have got and how many internet contacts I have made, I think about 15 or so onthe internet and about a dozen #'s and ave been at this a couple of weeks now, so I can date lots of people if I want to. Right now I want to play around but how can I be a gentlemen and do this? If I do find a good woman I will stick with her, but some of these women have kids, etc. and it would still be nice to sleep with them and I don't have anything else going on. However, I don't have a kid and would prefer to marry someone who doesn't as well because I want my own family. Sorry if that sounds selfish but that is how I feel. I hope my question didn't come across as too confusing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cave dweller

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harem

Several of my friends have harems. (they sleep with 3 or 4 different women in any one month)

But, I only date and 'bang' one at a time.

cave dweller
 

NewMan

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You feel guilty sleeping with multiple women because your not honest with them from the start.

Your not honest with them from the start because your view of women is what society has programed into you. You believe that women always want more - that they don't just want sex like men. That's not true.

Hang out here and read some posts and advice. You will quickly realize that women want sex just as much as men. Be honest with want you want from the start - that will of course turn some women away - but you'll also find women that will be up for it.

If you have your sh#t together, are fun and can take care of business - you'll be fine.
 
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