just another newb??
Don Juan
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Atleast he should get the woman to open her true self to her, to see if she is really worth dating. But that can be very hard to do from a perspective that I AM THE PRIZE.
This has been bugging me for a while... you cannot be the prize and a true man at the same time because a true man does what ever is needed to get the woman he is interested in.guess your time is valuable and i respect that so i will try to make it as short as possible. AS you can see im one of the Sosuave guys ... anywya i have to thank you for giving me the support i needed when I was trying to just be myself and get the women with no "game plan"
Reading your work was essential for me to find my "true"/"higher" self, but away with the glorifications and right to the point.
I 100% agree that it is our(boys) purpose on this earth to become men.
And i also agree that the focus must always be on your happiness.
But here comes the contradiction. I believe a man is someone who knows what he wants, is happy with himself and does whatever he wishes. A man TAKES what he wants, which means he must take the woman.
NOw i belive the moment you approach or start talking to a woman you cannot be the prize(to her, and unless she already wants you bad enough for your looks, eyecontact and energy alone)
You are the man, you pick the woman you want and you approach her, while making yourself truly vulnerable. And the degree of vulnerability you can show pretty much determins how manly you are.
(the more power you give her to reject you, the more powerful you will be)
I think you need to be honest with your desires from early on and let her know you want to give and recieve something from her. It seems almost like a trade, you give her sex, she gives you sex.
Ofcourse your beliefs have to be solid, to think you can give her something she cannot get.
And whlie talking to her you can believe you are the great catch, try to see if she fits you by asking questions but...
People often times are too afraid to open themselves up because they are afraid.. afraid of themselves.
So you need to be the man again and forget about being the prize and reveal your true self( this includes your shortcomings when neccecery)
Only then will others truly open themselves up and reaveal what they are " all about "
I belive anti-dump machine has got many things correct, but you can never get to know people on a deep level unless you are willing to give up "your prize" and make yourself vulnerable
advice needed please.
Atleast he should get the woman to open her true self to her, to see if she is really worth dating. But that can be very hard to do from a perspective that I AM THE PRIZE.