"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fred Da Head said:
Does that mean Anti-Dump's stuff isn't good because he doesn't post here anymore? What about Pook's writings?

Bumping good tips is, well, a good thing. That way people don't go and post the same thing all over again as has been happening so much around here, and they don't post questions when their answer is in a post like this.
Well, I'd agree with you, but the same advice is posted on an almost daily basis along with almost any advice posted on this site. There is a reason this topic died a year ago.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I guess you're right. We need to get Anti-Dump, Pook, and all the greats back so they can make up new stuff so we can repeat that new stuff along with the old stuff!
 

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Fred Da Head said:
I guess you're right. We need to get Anti-Dump, Pook, and all the greats back so they can make up new stuff so we can repeat that new stuff along with the old stuff!
Or maybe some of the new crowd could share some solid new ideas.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Or maybe some of the new crowd could share some solid new ideas.
I'd like that, too, but from the looks of it, it's not going to happen. I hate to be pessimist, but the new crowd seems to be stagnant.
 

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Chances are that if a girl is even remotley interested in you she'll call you and e-mail you frequently.

Some girls play hard to get but that's my measuring stick right there:

"Did she ask me for my number?"
"Does she call me back and call me all the time?"


^basically if she doesn't she probably doesn't like you just move on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chances are that if a girl is even remotley interested in you she'll call you and e-mail you frequently.
yea OK...and then you woke up


We don't need new ideas, it is what it is...this aint for your entertainment...its good to keep refreshing the old stuff because you spend so much time focusing on yourself you forget that you gotta sacrifice time an effort for some of these broads.

It also humbles you and reminds you that no matter how much value you have you aint no better than the average joe, and you gotta wear a shiit eating grin like everybody else, I hate when mu'fukkas be trying to re-invent the wheel an shiit.
 

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..It also humbles you and reminds you that no matter how much value you have you aint no better than the average joe, and you gotta wear a shiit eating grin like everybody else, I hate when mu'fukkas be trying to re-invent the wheel an shiit.
That's an interesting perspective.
 

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Tha Realnezz said:
Chances are that if a girl is even remotley interested in you she'll call you and e-mail you frequently.

Some girls play hard to get but that's my measuring stick right there:

"Did she ask me for my number?"
"Does she call me back and call me all the time?"


^basically if she doesn't she probably doesn't like you just move on.
total dellusion.
 
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The Juan and only said:
What a ridiculus thing to say. yes women have the power to reject you, but that's just the way it is. Generally speaking a woman won't make the moves.

Look, even though each woman has the power to reject any guy that approaches her. She DOESN'T have the power to choose who she interects with -- she must wait for guys to present themselves and then make a decision.
I dont know. If a girl is into a guy or likes a guy from scratch, she will be doing the initiating and the pursuing. Her 'second-choice' guys, or guys she's really not into have to do all the initiating and pursuing.

Like, this is a function of IL or something right? High IL, she initiates and pursues, medium IL, the guy initiates and pursues, she reacts positively, low IL, well you are flogging a horse with all your actions and you'll get torpedoed if another guy comes into the picture.

This is how I read this thread. Guess most people meet women with medium IL or something that's why they do all the pursuing and initiating first, and try to use skills, game or whatever to convert medium IL to high IL and pump up the buying temperature or something.

He who controls the IL holds the power.
 

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Fred Da Head said:
I'd like that, too, but from the looks of it, it's not going to happen. I hate to be pessimist, but the new crowd seems to be stagnant.
I'm trying. Pook stole all the good advice. :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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