"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A Comment I am Tired of Hearing

K B

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You know, I get so sick and tired of people in here saying the same tired line that goes something like this:

She walked all over you because you LET her, or you should have known better, etc.

That is just plain IGNORANT. I found this site when I was LOST. Like most males out there, I had no one to guide me, to tell me, that girls are NOT "sugar and spice." Girls LOOK innocent, they let you think that they ARE innocent, the MEDIA tells us this every day, our own MOTHERS tell us this, and, in most cases, our FATHERS even tell us this.

Telling young DJ's that "you let her walk all over you, and it is YOUR fault", although may be true, is like telling a 5 year old it is "his fault" for failing to use sunscreen when he gets sunburned.

How are we supposed to know any different? I, for one, never DREAMED that females could be so capable at manipulating men and abusing their power. I kept failing with women, although I was doing everything "right." Sites like this, that tell it how it REALLY is, and gives a REAL (politically incorrect) view of women and what we can do to gain their respect, are EXTREMELY RARE.

Girls are taught, from their mothers and every female magazine out there how to "get your man to beg for more" etc.....just check out the covers of some of these magazines the next time you are standing in line at the grocery store. There is NOTHING like that for men. NO ONE TELLS US HOW IT REALLY IS.

This site is AWESOME! The young DJs come here looking for help, they are lost, like we once were, and they are HURTING. So let them vent, and guide them, give them time, but please stop telling them it is THEIR fault. Doesn't the rest of the world tell young boys it is their fault for everything that is wrong with this world without us joining in?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Skel

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Its my belief that you can either be an azzhole or a pushover and nothing in between. Id rather be an azzhole. 2 cents out
 

Julian

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Nothing is black and white skel so i am going to disagree with you.
 

Hellboy

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Originally posted by Skel
Its my belief that you can either be an azzhole or a pushover and nothing in between. Id rather be an azzhole. 2 cents out
That sentiment flies in the face of everything that this site repesents. If you want to be respected by a woman it comes down to two things: respect her, and respect yourself.

The guys who worship women fall foul of the second rule, and lose all respect from the girl. She may not dislike you but she aint gonna be turned on by you.

The guys who treat women like shyt are falling foul of the first rule and may get laid. But they are never gonna find the true happiness that is found only in a close relationship.
 

Desdinova

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She walked all over you because you LET her
This doesn't apply only to women, but everyone you encounter in your life. There's a lot of people out there who will take advantage of you if you let them.

or you should have known better, etc.
The problem is a lot of newbies come to this site looking for easy answers. They don't bother reading anything, they just post their problem and expect an easy answer. The people who have been here a long time prefer if a newbie reads the DJ Bible to get answers to the most simple questions.

If a person has read the DJ Bible, they SHOULD have known better than to let a woman walk all over them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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