"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A cold approach...and now what?

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I approached a total stranger at school and asked her to join me for coffee. She seemed very shy and nervous and told me she was getting ready for an exam and asked me to come back later . I went back a while later and she was gone. What would be the appropriate thing to do? Should I ask her again if I see her or should I simply wait for her signs?

I'm not afriad to take chances. At the same time, I don't want to make her feel awkward.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wouldn't hold my breath

Give a bit more info.
Was she looking around nervously?
Was she apologetic?
It's tough to say if her telling you to ask her out later was a gentle rejection or a window of opportunity.
Next time you see her, you might want to playfully tease her...
"hey, you owe me a coffee!!!"
 
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Her faced turned red and had a smile on her face like she couldn't believe I actually showed up unexpected. As if I caught her off-gaurd.
She said she would have gone if it wasn't for her exam and then asked to check with her again.
 
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