"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A close friend of mine died / girl's behavior

CantTouchMyStyle

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So, today was the wake of a close friend of mine who passed and I am a bit crushed. Just feel numb and hurt.

I decided to tell this girl who I have been casually seeing & sleeping with for the past few months, because I just felt awful today. She tells me if there is anything I need to let her know, etc. tells me how sorry she is and that she hopes I am okay.

After the wake tonight, I felt horrible and decide to text her to see if she wants to get a drink. She replies to the text an hour later saying she is already out, sorry and hopes I am okay. We live 10 minutes apart btw.

I really didn't want to go out to be honest, but I was more put off by how she didn't think it was an important enough occasion to want to see me.

I don't want to overreact, but would anyone here bother even communicating with this girl again?

EDIT - It's also worth noting that this girl cried in my arms a month ago over the anniversary of her grandmothers death.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tiguere

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First you walk out on a girl you just finished banging just cuz she was texting a dude and now this??? Your ego is taking over the universe.
 

EA Gold

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I've had 3-4 people at my workplace die over the years and I've taken it pretty well.

Maybe because I know what to expect after this life but I also have the understanding that were all going to die, you, me and worrying about it right now, will only lead to you ruining your own life.

To be honest, I don't think drinking or seeing this girl would have made your situation better. You need some time alone to think and to be by yourself, and search for the truth.
 

Atom Smasher

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Sorry to hear about your friend, man. I lost one of my closest friends recently, too, so I'm feelin ya.

If you have been seeing her casually, could she possibly feel that she is somewhat on the periphery of your life and therefore doesn't want to get into girlfriend territory? Not saying she's right, just speculating on her motives.

You should probably continue communicating, perhaps say that was one lonely day the other day, and see what she says. Maybe even see if she responds favorably to your telling her about your friendship with your friend.

The appropriateness of her actions really depend on the kind of relationship you have established with her, and only you know the answer to that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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