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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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A close friend of mine died / girl's behavior

CantTouchMyStyle

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So, today was the wake of a close friend of mine who passed and I am a bit crushed. Just feel numb and hurt.

I decided to tell this girl who I have been casually seeing & sleeping with for the past few months, because I just felt awful today. She tells me if there is anything I need to let her know, etc. tells me how sorry she is and that she hopes I am okay.

After the wake tonight, I felt horrible and decide to text her to see if she wants to get a drink. She replies to the text an hour later saying she is already out, sorry and hopes I am okay. We live 10 minutes apart btw.

I really didn't want to go out to be honest, but I was more put off by how she didn't think it was an important enough occasion to want to see me.

I don't want to overreact, but would anyone here bother even communicating with this girl again?

EDIT - It's also worth noting that this girl cried in my arms a month ago over the anniversary of her grandmothers death.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tiguere

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First you walk out on a girl you just finished banging just cuz she was texting a dude and now this??? Your ego is taking over the universe.
 

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I've had 3-4 people at my workplace die over the years and I've taken it pretty well.

Maybe because I know what to expect after this life but I also have the understanding that were all going to die, you, me and worrying about it right now, will only lead to you ruining your own life.

To be honest, I don't think drinking or seeing this girl would have made your situation better. You need some time alone to think and to be by yourself, and search for the truth.
 

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Sorry to hear about your friend, man. I lost one of my closest friends recently, too, so I'm feelin ya.

If you have been seeing her casually, could she possibly feel that she is somewhat on the periphery of your life and therefore doesn't want to get into girlfriend territory? Not saying she's right, just speculating on her motives.

You should probably continue communicating, perhaps say that was one lonely day the other day, and see what she says. Maybe even see if she responds favorably to your telling her about your friendship with your friend.

The appropriateness of her actions really depend on the kind of relationship you have established with her, and only you know the answer to that.
 

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