"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A close friend of mine died / girl's behavior

CantTouchMyStyle

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So, today was the wake of a close friend of mine who passed and I am a bit crushed. Just feel numb and hurt.

I decided to tell this girl who I have been casually seeing & sleeping with for the past few months, because I just felt awful today. She tells me if there is anything I need to let her know, etc. tells me how sorry she is and that she hopes I am okay.

After the wake tonight, I felt horrible and decide to text her to see if she wants to get a drink. She replies to the text an hour later saying she is already out, sorry and hopes I am okay. We live 10 minutes apart btw.

I really didn't want to go out to be honest, but I was more put off by how she didn't think it was an important enough occasion to want to see me.

I don't want to overreact, but would anyone here bother even communicating with this girl again?

EDIT - It's also worth noting that this girl cried in my arms a month ago over the anniversary of her grandmothers death.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tiguere

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First you walk out on a girl you just finished banging just cuz she was texting a dude and now this??? Your ego is taking over the universe.
 

EA Gold

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I've had 3-4 people at my workplace die over the years and I've taken it pretty well.

Maybe because I know what to expect after this life but I also have the understanding that were all going to die, you, me and worrying about it right now, will only lead to you ruining your own life.

To be honest, I don't think drinking or seeing this girl would have made your situation better. You need some time alone to think and to be by yourself, and search for the truth.
 

Atom Smasher

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Sorry to hear about your friend, man. I lost one of my closest friends recently, too, so I'm feelin ya.

If you have been seeing her casually, could she possibly feel that she is somewhat on the periphery of your life and therefore doesn't want to get into girlfriend territory? Not saying she's right, just speculating on her motives.

You should probably continue communicating, perhaps say that was one lonely day the other day, and see what she says. Maybe even see if she responds favorably to your telling her about your friendship with your friend.

The appropriateness of her actions really depend on the kind of relationship you have established with her, and only you know the answer to that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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