I texted a few of my friends "merry xmas" of which one of them happened to be a chick I've dated in the past. After she responded enthusiastically, I proceeded to ask her out on a date to a movie I wanted to see. It went well as a movie can go such that there's very little communication. Whatever, I wanted to see that movie and I wasn't gonna go by myself. Anyway, the next night while I was at a club dancing with another girl closely I noticed Girl A standing above the dance floor peering down at us. OOPS! I didn't know she was even at the club beforehand. Anyway, I saw her later that evening standing in front of me so I tugged her arm and said "hey". She didn't turn around and just ignored me. I think she's mad. I wanted to ask her out again though. Do you think this would be a good I idea? Maybe wait a couple weeks? Dunno.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
A chick I dated in the past...
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