"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A bit pissed off really..

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Why is it that I always **** up with girls? Tonight I went out in town, I had about 3-5 girls grab my arms (I stay in shape) and had about another 3 give me a smile and a wink whilst on the dance floor and yet I didn't pull any of them yet my friend (who also stays in shape and is fairly good looking) got one of the hottest girls in the club.

I feel so bad because I always seem to **** myself out of getting laid and I don't know why.. aaargh. what do I do?!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't get the question....

Speaking from a guy without the pipes, women don't just grab my arms... but I think you need to stop being a *****. Sure you could kick my ass, but your acting like a *****. STEP UP! Get her name, get her number, get HER to buy YOU a drink, and, if you wanna get laid right away, share a cab with her, walk her home, there's, in my opinion, a 50-50 chance of getting laid.

BUT, if you play it cool, and it doesn't look like you just wanna get laid, and play ehr hot and cold, tease her, etc, she will be the one wanting to have sex with you.

SOOOO basically, talk to the b!tchs... sorry, just came out that way...

Ciao
 

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I agree with what you're saying but for some reason every time I go out, I don't do that. It's like the minute I know I have a shot with a girl, I do everything I can to get out of the situation. I don't know whether it's anxiety or what but afterwards I kick myself. I just really don't know what to do.
 
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Originally posted by SteR
I agree with what you're saying but for some reason every time I go out, I don't do that. It's like the minute I know I have a shot with a girl, I do everything I can to get out of the situation. I don't know whether it's anxiety or what but afterwards I kick myself. I just really don't know what to do.
homosexual and wont admit it ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by SteR
nah I'm not gay
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then just do it, dont think

thats y people get drunk, the ones that dont act like idiots (and dont get limp ****) get he benefit of brain off, and theres just the hangover to deal with later
 

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dude quit bein a h8er, your friend isnt to blame you are. instead of worrying about his game, you should work to improve yours.

whatever it is, fix the problem.
 

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that's what I don't understand about myself. If I'm drunk then I should just go for it but I don't. I really think I need to make a concerted effort to JUST DO IT.
 

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Confidence Man.
Think *I'm gonna make my friend jealous of me for once."

Maybe your gay.... haha kidding.

How old are you?
 

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20. It just seems that if I'm gonna dance with a girl, they always reject me. But then again, whenever I dance with a girl, I just end up dancing with randoms rather than the ones who are giving me the eye contact.

In general, I seem to do better with girls when I talk to them at the bar rather than just trying to dance with them. I just wish I could go for more girls on the dance floor without worrying about rejection..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Instead of selecting women at random be more selective and narrow your search and look for signs of interest (eye contact) - once you get a dance isolate them and go for the kill! I mean 'kill ' in the figurative manner of speech. of course.:rolleyes: Get their number and then join your friends again.

If your buddy is better at pick-up than you then have him introduce you to the girl's friends and go from there.
 

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My guess is, you're either shy and reserved, or you're an overthinker.

if it's the first one, stop being that way. It's great that girls are approaching you and kinoing you, but you should be the one leading the girl, not the other way around. Start being more assertive. If a girl touches you, it's a perfect oppurtunity for a C&F comment (girl if you're gonna keep groping my arm, you should at least buy me a drink), if she winks/smiles at you, just go up to her and dance/talk/whatever, don't chicken out.

if you overthink, act before you can think. you've read the 3 second rule, start using it (and if you haven't read it, then you need to start reading the bible again )
 
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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Instead of selecting women at random be more selective and narrow your search and look for signs of interest (eye contact) - once you get a dance isolate them and go for the kill! I mean 'kill ' in the figurative manner of speech.
r u sure?
i heard its a good way to get with girls after you kill them, they always got 100% eye contact with you, and they dont say no !
 
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