jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
I’ve noticed a certain dynamic in some ltr's.
Often, these relationships follow a pattern, the woman is the one who proposes new activities or experiences. It could be something as simple as, “Let’s go to this restaurant tomorrow, I want to try their red mini pizzas,” or more intimate suggestions like, “I read about a swing in this erotica book, we need to tryyy” She might point out a decorative item for the house or mention a movie she’s excited to watch together. The common thread is that she’s always initiating.
It seemed to me that these women genuinely wanted to experience new things, but they didn’t want to do them alone, they needed their partner to be involved. Whether that’s emotional dependence or just preference is debatable, but the pattern was consistent.
These same women were also often quite anxious, worrying about small things like running out of milk, urgently reminding their partner to buy it, sometimes repeatedly messaging them about it.
Interestingly, despite their openness to experimentation, especially sexually, they remained loyal to the same partner. It was as if they were constantly seeking novelty, but only within the boundaries of the relationship.
To me, the dynamic resembled a child looking for approval from a parent, enthusiastically bringing ideas forward, but waiting for a “yes” before proceeding. The man’s role was to give that permission, sometimes withholding immediate agreement even when he wanted to say yes, making her "earn" the approval.
The men in these relationships were often quite accommodating, "beta", perhaps even passive, but some would eventually reach a breaking point. A few of these couples broke up because the men got tired of constantly reacting to requests or demands.
Still, many of these relationships have lasted 10 or even 20 years with the same dynamic. It makes me wonder, what kind of relationship is this? On the surface, it seems functional, passionate, even. But underneath, it feels a bit manipulative and not entirely authentic on either side, but it has a bit of "healthy codependency" at his core
Often, these relationships follow a pattern, the woman is the one who proposes new activities or experiences. It could be something as simple as, “Let’s go to this restaurant tomorrow, I want to try their red mini pizzas,” or more intimate suggestions like, “I read about a swing in this erotica book, we need to tryyy” She might point out a decorative item for the house or mention a movie she’s excited to watch together. The common thread is that she’s always initiating.
It seemed to me that these women genuinely wanted to experience new things, but they didn’t want to do them alone, they needed their partner to be involved. Whether that’s emotional dependence or just preference is debatable, but the pattern was consistent.
These same women were also often quite anxious, worrying about small things like running out of milk, urgently reminding their partner to buy it, sometimes repeatedly messaging them about it.
Interestingly, despite their openness to experimentation, especially sexually, they remained loyal to the same partner. It was as if they were constantly seeking novelty, but only within the boundaries of the relationship.
To me, the dynamic resembled a child looking for approval from a parent, enthusiastically bringing ideas forward, but waiting for a “yes” before proceeding. The man’s role was to give that permission, sometimes withholding immediate agreement even when he wanted to say yes, making her "earn" the approval.
The men in these relationships were often quite accommodating, "beta", perhaps even passive, but some would eventually reach a breaking point. A few of these couples broke up because the men got tired of constantly reacting to requests or demands.
Still, many of these relationships have lasted 10 or even 20 years with the same dynamic. It makes me wonder, what kind of relationship is this? On the surface, it seems functional, passionate, even. But underneath, it feels a bit manipulative and not entirely authentic on either side, but it has a bit of "healthy codependency" at his core