"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A bit intimidated by popularity.

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thatdude156

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How do i overcome this silly fear? I know i have nothing to be afraid of. I personally believe i am better than most.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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At least at my school, the popular kids are don't function well out of there "safe" environment. (Yes, Mind I took your idea! I thought it fit) Also they haven't done anything to make me believe they are better then me. So why treat them like it?
If you were in a room full of people who all thought they were all exactly equals with you, and you believed it as well, it would be very easy to talk with them because you wouldn't be intimidated. They would have fun with you.
Other people feed off your energy, if you think they are better then you, then they are going to act it.
 
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I agree with Nite in that they are only "poplular" if you believe so in your head. You'll see that when you leave high school and you see those same people again, they'll know who you are but for one reason or another, you guys did'nt speak much in school.

One of the keys to getting over this is to internalize the fact that this is your own impression of them. Put them in a different setting or in a different school and I guarantee you that they are not the popular kids. They're regular people with regular problems like everybody else.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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