"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A Better Workout Plan

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I need a better workout plan.

Currently I have three workouts: run 1 hour per week, 2-3 upper body workouts, one abs workout.

Upper body workout (currently):
  • Push ups (50x4)
  • pull ups (12x4)
  • Bench (8x4@55 kg)
  • Over the shoulder (20x4@10 kg). (from neutral to straight up arms with curls).
Abs workout:
  • Plank (60s x3)
  • Russian twist (60x3@10kg)
  • Mountain climber (60s x3)
  • Bicycle crunch (60s x 3).
Focuses:
  • I want to re-add squats (currently 90 kg) and dead lifts (I do 8x4@90 kg) into a program, primarily for the hormonal effects @BackInTheGame78 talks about and secondary calorie burns
  • I workout 4-5 times a week, typically 4
  • I do upper body for aesthetics, it could be a good idea to have two different programs with different exercises.
Any ideas for a better plan? I have started tracking using the iOS app "Strong", have a trial month, it seems ok.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I need a better workout plan.

Currently I have three workouts: run 1 hour per week, 2-3 upper body workouts, one abs workout.

Upper body workout (currently):
  • Push ups (50x4)
  • pull ups (12x4)
  • Bench (8x4@55 kg)
  • Over the shoulder (20x4@10 kg). (from neutral to straight up arms with curls).
Abs workout:
  • Plank (60s x3)
  • Russian twist (60x3@10kg)
  • Mountain climber (60s x3)
  • Bicycle crunch (60s x 3).
Focuses:
  • I want to re-add squats (currently 90 kg) and dead lifts (I do 8x4@90 kg) into a program, primarily for the hormonal effects @BackInTheGame78 talks about and secondary calorie burns
  • I workout 4-5 times a week, typically 4
  • I do upper body for aesthetics, it could be a good idea to have two different programs with different exercises.
Any ideas for a better plan? I have started tracking using the iOS app "Strong", have a trial month, it seems ok.
Look into stronglifts 5x5
 

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My go to split it is basically strong lifts / starting strength as a hybrid

A:
Barbell Squat 3X5
Overhead Press 3X5
Deadlift (1X5) / Weighted Chin Ups 3X5

B:
Barbell Squat 3X5
Bench Press 3X5
Pendlay Row 3X5

Just do A-B-A-B, with at least 48 hours rest between workouts. I alternate deadlifts and weighted chins on A workouts (so deadlift every other A). Deadlifts are overly taxing at a certain point and the other exercises are assessory that increase your deadlift anyway.

I have a separate cardio split for the warm months but start with that for 3-5 months or so.
 

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I did my first StrongLifts workout today, using their app. It was ok. That guy surely knows more and me, and it's a relief to have someone else pace/design the advancements of my lifts instead of my own voodoo-stuff.

Some complain that StrongLifts is not good for aesthetics. I have no intentions to be "strong" or be a "body builder", I don't give a ****, I just wanna look good. Athletic, well-shaped, and so on. I don't think many heavy lifters look good, they look like one put a large stone on a truck or something, and they've sunken down. Some also say it's a lot of leg focus.

Is there some program that is better for aesthetics than StrongLifts? Or is StrongLifts good for that? It's after all classic exercises.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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EyeBRollin

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Some complain that StrongLifts is not good for aesthetics. I have no intentions to be "strong" or be a "body builder", I don't give a ****, I just wanna look good. Athletic, well-shaped, and so on. I don't think many heavy lifters look good, they look like one put a large stone on a truck or something, and they've sunken down. Some also say it's a lot of leg focus.

Is there some program that is better for aesthetics than StrongLifts? Or is StrongLifts good for that? It's after all classic exercises.
Stronglifts is good for aesthetics. Only tweak o suggest is incorporating some chin ups, like in the plan I laid out above. Chin ups double up on the arm and back development.

Conventional “wisdom” on what looks good aesthetically is based off splits used by steroid-abusing fitness models. A natural athlete will never achieve those aesthetics.
 
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