"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I looked this up on Urban Dictionary after it was mentioned on a previous thread I made.

Do some girls' expectations of men and their view of life and who they choose for their cliques really come from what they watch?

I complained in the past on another board that girls' indoctinated by television were to blame for why your average guy can't get a woman, then in response I got a load of posts suggesting I was just finding 'something to blame'.

Is it just me, or are they wrong? Do many girls have unrealistic expectations due to TV?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sambwoy said:
I looked this up on Urban Dictionary after it was mentioned on a previous thread I made.

Do some girls' expectations of men and their view of life and who they choose for their cliques really come from what they watch?

I complained in the past on another board that girls' indoctinated by television were to blame for why your average guy can't get a woman, then in response I got a load of posts suggesting I was just finding 'something to blame'.

Is it just me, or are they wrong? Do many girls have unrealistic expectations due to TV?
You are correct.
 

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90210 is nothing but women with entitlement issues, absolute filth.

The media, social conditioning and environmental issues are to blame.
 

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Never seen the show (or the original series), but I feel the definition on Urban Dictionary could be applicable to many things. Just interchange the name of whatever media they're watching.

It's all very well to say just turn off your TV and allow yourself to be humbled, but most people do watch TV. I still acknowledge that many men without the looks in daily life could be just drones having to put up with their crappy job and girls are just a hope, nothing more. Or it may seem like that if those guys are only waiting on the 'hot' ones?
 

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I knew girls who marked a stranger down because of his looks, be it bus driver, or road/construction worker....like they expect every man to look like Channing Tatum. Okay, maybe only younger chicks do this. I cannot process this kind of behaviour. What is someone like me supposed to do? Do I have to lower my expectations in life so much as this whole looks business is so skewed?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What women find attractive is often influenced by the media.

For example, George Clooney grows a beard and suddenly bearded guys become hot.
 

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I agree, but not only TV. Social media gives them many options. Probably gives active feedback to this self-image to at least 25 or so when it might of died in their teens as a dream. I dont have much experience with girls over 25 but seeing as the population split is 50/50 I would imagine they get more serious about just finding any man they can as the beauty fades.

All their facebook/twitter orbitors make them feel just like the celebs they read about and watch. Most orbitors will disappear once they are actually getting laid by someone but its pretty easy to buy into the celeb fantasy if you put a few picks up of your night out with the girls on facebook knowing a bunch of people will comment on it.

I dont believe for a second the guys are holding out for the 'hot' ones. They will worship them but dont tell me they wont take what they can get. Theres seems to be a disconnect between what the woman perceives is happening (I must be special TV says so and I have the followers/drunk texts to prove it) and what is actually happening with the man (Im hungry and shopping around, hot anything is a plus)
 

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Dust 2 Dust said:
What women find attractive is often influenced by the media.

For example, George Clooney grows a beard and suddenly bearded guys become hot.
I was told once the shallow ones love drama and excitement.
Sensitive things going on in real peoples' lives is entertainment to them, I get the feeling that they treat them like its celebrity gossip.
I suspect this goes on. I've been chronically single, nearly 27. When I was in college, I was so desperately depressed because of these people.
Maybe its me, with such low expectations and a bad outlook on life and all, but I'm not playing the blame game here.
 

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Dust 2 Dust said:
What women find attractive is often influenced by the media.
And/or their cliques, if they have the misfortune to be involved with such girls and won't decide for themselves.
 
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