Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You messed up at the end because you played into her frame. The wonderful nature of Myspace is that you can totally control the frame. No matter what they respond with, you just plow through with what you want to say. This is why Jlaix (the RSD guy who wrote it) can pull it off. Through whatever RSD teach (and i'm not familiar with this) he is able to control a discussion. I mean this is what happened in yours at the end:
Her: What do you want?
You: Every day. I want a two hour full body massage, a home cooked dinner, and to be tucked in and kissed on the forehead just like mom used to do... and not necessarily in that order.
Her: Every day? Or just once?
You: Read it again... I specified EVERY DAY.
Her: I'm retarded. No thanks.
At the end she asked a question, you answered. She asked an ultimatum (once vs everyday) and you answered. She totally controlled the frame and therefore you. She controlled the situation.
Another purpose of the RSD myspace tactic is once you've done the first few steps you should be ok to vibe with the girl. You have to ask for the number (or sex, or date or whatever) after applying what they put up. So you have to be able to work it outside of online routines. Be confident with what you say - you're looking for a hookup after all. Show some balls lol
I mean I sent the "you're cute...dork" message to one person and they thought I was insulting them. I ignored their rants and followed through with the NYC story and they loved it. Even #closed, but she was a bit weird. Nymphomaniac. However, if I had resorted to trading witticisms with her I would be branded just another AFC, using humour as a defense mechanism against an inability to talk to women.
The RSD letter is genius as it allows you to interperate her responces at IoI's - and given that she replies three times - it's time to get that number on #4! Your problem is that you sent too many messages and just became bothersome. Short snappy witticisms don't work through Myspace, it's allabout the elaboration.
You did pretty badly, but it;s just an internet chick - and I doubtshe really gave two $hits to be honest. What I reccomend you do is focus on sending out the routine word-for-word for a bit, then learn to improvise stuff, and to lead stuff in. Eventually you won't need to use the routine as you'll know what to type yourself.