Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
As I've read the forum over the years and seen all the angst and strife regarding women, one thing become crystal clear to me:
The bulk of this unnecessary suffering is due to the fact that most of you go after Low Interest women. Time after time, year after year I see men chasing women who have shown either zero, or low interest in them. You are trying to create something out of nothing, and it is very rare that a woman will turn around and be attracted to you after relenting and going out with you on either a pity date or a date where she has no investment in you.
I propose you take after your dear old Uncle Atom and do the following: Learn how to identify women's interest in you. A woman will give off subtle and not-so-subtle indicators as they interact with you, or are in your presence.
Remember, while most women can become universally attractive with the aid of makeup, clothing, etc., men cannot do the same. A man will only ever appeal to a subset of women. Within that subset of women who are attracted to you, is where the techniques come in and work 95% of the time.
When you go after women who have already covertly invited you, you have to be pretty bad to screw up a virtually sure thing.
I won't get into all the "Indicators of Interest" in this thread, but I will mention a few. Men are notoriously bad at recognizing when a woman is attracted to them. Even though (in her covert verbal language and body language) she is practically screaming out that she likes you, those indicators go right over your head.
Wise is the man who really gets down the subtle indicators that almost guarantee your success. Some examples:
When a woman is smiling at you, that's a huge indicator. Most women will not smile at a man she is neutral about or feels creeped-out by. If she is smiling at you in your presence, consider that a sign of attraction. If she is attracted, she will light up when you appear in her presence. When she keeps on looking at you from afar, she is intrigued by you. When she looks and smiles, that's an open invitation. You already have her in the bag. When she laughs at your jokes, she is most definitely attracted.
After that, light, breezy, fun conversation will lock her in.
The trick is to establish that she is attracted to you before you ask her for a date. By doing so, you will virtually eliminate rejection. This is a form of qualifying. Soften the target and qualify a stranger before getting to asking her for a date. I can honestly say I've never once been rejected after coming to this realization.
Instead of trying to impress a woman and hoping for the best, pre-qualify her by establishing certainty that she is already attracted. I'm convinced that in my earlier life, while I thought I was completely unattractive, there were plenty of women who telegraphed that they were interested, but that communication simply flew right over my head. IMO the best skill a man can learn, when it comes to game, is recognizing the signals that a women puts out.
My examples above are only the tip of the iceberg. There are loads of signals an interested woman puts out. The main signal is where she facilitates the continuing of a conversation. If her answers are short and polite, and she doesn't invest, eject and find a woman who is actually interested. An interested woman will facilitate continued conversation.
The older you get, the easier it is to read the signals and intuit that a woman is interested. Learning this starts out as mechanical (but is still reliable), but the art evolves into intuitive knowledge.
My advice to all you young bucks is to pre-qualify her for interest. Your dismal success rate will skyrocket to close to 100%. Start to open your eyes to day-to-day indicators of interest, and you will be surprised. You're likely letting many sure-fire prospects slip right through your fingers because of lack of awareness.
Finally, the single best thing you can do to massively increase the number of women who are interested in you upon first sight: Neat clothing and nice, clean footwear. This tells her you're a man who has his act together. Your clothing doesn't have to be expensive... Just well-fitting and clean. Iron your shirts.
Here's what she looks at in order:
1) Your face
2) Your eyes and sometimes your teeth
3) Your shoes
Yes, I said your shoes. Women weigh your footwear extremely heavily in their assessment of you. By these criteria she will either decide to invite you with the signs that you need to learn to recognize, or she will close herself off to you.
Why try to construct attraction (a futile endeavor involving monkey dancing to try to impress her), when you can be 100% sure of interest on her part? Remember that you, as a man, can only appeal to a subset of women, although we tend to think that there is something wrong with us of we are not found universally attractive. You will only appeal to 20 to 30% of women. It's simply numbers and percentages. Identify that 20%, and watch what happens to your success rate.
If you find yourself pining away over a woman, wondering "Does she like me or not?", you are suffering needlessly. Let me tell, you the answer to that question is, "Not".
A woman who is attracted to you will move mountains to see you and relate to you.
The bulk of this unnecessary suffering is due to the fact that most of you go after Low Interest women. Time after time, year after year I see men chasing women who have shown either zero, or low interest in them. You are trying to create something out of nothing, and it is very rare that a woman will turn around and be attracted to you after relenting and going out with you on either a pity date or a date where she has no investment in you.
I propose you take after your dear old Uncle Atom and do the following: Learn how to identify women's interest in you. A woman will give off subtle and not-so-subtle indicators as they interact with you, or are in your presence.
Remember, while most women can become universally attractive with the aid of makeup, clothing, etc., men cannot do the same. A man will only ever appeal to a subset of women. Within that subset of women who are attracted to you, is where the techniques come in and work 95% of the time.
When you go after women who have already covertly invited you, you have to be pretty bad to screw up a virtually sure thing.
I won't get into all the "Indicators of Interest" in this thread, but I will mention a few. Men are notoriously bad at recognizing when a woman is attracted to them. Even though (in her covert verbal language and body language) she is practically screaming out that she likes you, those indicators go right over your head.
Wise is the man who really gets down the subtle indicators that almost guarantee your success. Some examples:
When a woman is smiling at you, that's a huge indicator. Most women will not smile at a man she is neutral about or feels creeped-out by. If she is smiling at you in your presence, consider that a sign of attraction. If she is attracted, she will light up when you appear in her presence. When she keeps on looking at you from afar, she is intrigued by you. When she looks and smiles, that's an open invitation. You already have her in the bag. When she laughs at your jokes, she is most definitely attracted.
After that, light, breezy, fun conversation will lock her in.
The trick is to establish that she is attracted to you before you ask her for a date. By doing so, you will virtually eliminate rejection. This is a form of qualifying. Soften the target and qualify a stranger before getting to asking her for a date. I can honestly say I've never once been rejected after coming to this realization.
Instead of trying to impress a woman and hoping for the best, pre-qualify her by establishing certainty that she is already attracted. I'm convinced that in my earlier life, while I thought I was completely unattractive, there were plenty of women who telegraphed that they were interested, but that communication simply flew right over my head. IMO the best skill a man can learn, when it comes to game, is recognizing the signals that a women puts out.
My examples above are only the tip of the iceberg. There are loads of signals an interested woman puts out. The main signal is where she facilitates the continuing of a conversation. If her answers are short and polite, and she doesn't invest, eject and find a woman who is actually interested. An interested woman will facilitate continued conversation.
The older you get, the easier it is to read the signals and intuit that a woman is interested. Learning this starts out as mechanical (but is still reliable), but the art evolves into intuitive knowledge.
My advice to all you young bucks is to pre-qualify her for interest. Your dismal success rate will skyrocket to close to 100%. Start to open your eyes to day-to-day indicators of interest, and you will be surprised. You're likely letting many sure-fire prospects slip right through your fingers because of lack of awareness.
Finally, the single best thing you can do to massively increase the number of women who are interested in you upon first sight: Neat clothing and nice, clean footwear. This tells her you're a man who has his act together. Your clothing doesn't have to be expensive... Just well-fitting and clean. Iron your shirts.
Here's what she looks at in order:
1) Your face
2) Your eyes and sometimes your teeth
3) Your shoes
Yes, I said your shoes. Women weigh your footwear extremely heavily in their assessment of you. By these criteria she will either decide to invite you with the signs that you need to learn to recognize, or she will close herself off to you.
Why try to construct attraction (a futile endeavor involving monkey dancing to try to impress her), when you can be 100% sure of interest on her part? Remember that you, as a man, can only appeal to a subset of women, although we tend to think that there is something wrong with us of we are not found universally attractive. You will only appeal to 20 to 30% of women. It's simply numbers and percentages. Identify that 20%, and watch what happens to your success rate.
If you find yourself pining away over a woman, wondering "Does she like me or not?", you are suffering needlessly. Let me tell, you the answer to that question is, "Not".
A woman who is attracted to you will move mountains to see you and relate to you.
