"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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7-month LTR breakup...

Engetsu

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I've known for a while that my current girl wasn't good enough for me, but I was staying in the relationship just for the sex and benefits of her living close to me.

However, the sex got scarce, and she started acting like a b1tch. We constantly got into fights about the stupidest things, and I was always getting the feeling that she didn't care as much for me as before, because lately I slipped on the DJ grip and I started being a lot less easy to work with... I was conscious of the way that I've acted over the past months, that's why I got a lot more C+F, light convos, during the last week, just like at the beginning, because that was what got her to fall in love with me so madly...

But I always felt like she couldn't please me, and I didn't even know why I liked this girl, even less sure that I loved her... And we got into fights about that... But I still stayed, trying to work things out, even though they weren't.


A couple of days ago, I took a break from her because I told her that I wasn't feeling like her boyfriend anymore, because she was acting b1tchy and cutting off sex... I told her I saw myself as more of a friend, and I need her to think about having a 50/50 relationship where both parties fulfill the other's needs...

Well, she thought about it long & hard, and told me that she did lose feelings for me, but still wanted to keep the friendship. She said she lost the "butterflies in her stomach" when she saw me lately... It was replaced by more of a "oh I'm gonna go relax" kind of feeling.

Anyways, I told her that I needed some time to cope with this, and that I would talk to her when I was ready for it. She asked me to promise that I wouldn't ignore her, and I didn't.

At this point, I feel hurt and I feel like an idiot. I should've listened to my gut feeling that told me to break it off when I should've, but I stayed for the benefits in the relationship, not because I loved the girl.

This is a tip for all you DJ's out there... If a relationship isn't going your way and you feel you can get better, you need to BAIL OUT. Stay in a relationship for the ONLY reason of caring for the person who's with you. The rest is superficial.

I'm out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jbbrain

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dude, dont stress...

were you out ont st. lawrence last night?????

you're single my man...good to see that you were able to grab your nuts and take te initiative to break it off...yeah, maybe you delayed it...but in the end, you followed through and thats what counts.

Enjoy your single life man...no, really.
 

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Thx jb... Right now I don't feel like going back to any serious relationship until I figure out what the hell it is that I want from myself and what I want from a girl...

And yeah, I was out on St-Laurent last night... I was at club Orchid. Were you?
 

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good.

you were out...then you know what I mean when i say congrats on the single life! Did u see all the chicks EVERYWHERE?

I wouldnt stress too much about what happened, what didnt, what went wrong etc etc. I dont know your situation very well, but I can tell, like me, you're a young guy just ready to give it to the world.

Its funny that this is happening to you..I commend you on your decision bcause I'm going to make a similar decision imminently. My relationship has peeked and I've recently made the decision to get out. If you want some company to reintegrate yourself in the game, pm my ass. I will be hooking up with Deezy soon too.

later homey.
 
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Originally posted by Engetsu
However, the sex got scarce, ...acting b1tchy and cutting off sex...
This is when she decided to leave you - women never cut off sex to a man they want!!! If your girl/wife/sister (just kidding :D) refuses to have sex at your command then leave and get another ho!!

Never say "OK - if you don't want to have sex then we won't" You gave her control and you stopped being the man thus the relationship was over then!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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