"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
60+ harridans lament that men aren't interested in them anymore
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mike32ct
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BaronOfHair
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Lots of those gals don't look horrid by any means, even if their beauty is 1/8th of a shadow of it's 19-20 year old self. Most of them could easily snag men in their 7th-9th decades of life. This isn't even a uniquely female problem:
99% of the male population are neither glamourous celebrities nor billionaires, thus our chances of ever boning the day's hottest starlets or/and supermodels are weaker than John Walsh's prospects of rocking his grandkids by Adam to sleep, anytime within THIS life
Yet, those of us in this said 99% still get on with life anyway
Westminster
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I'd rather not bother and be on my own if that's all I could get. At least then you've got your peace, you can get your sh!te together, and do your own thing. If ever the juice isn't worth the squeeze, it's with women that old.
You can have my age matches that I'm not interested in...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Westminster
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Fine for recreational use but again I wouldn't want to be buying into anything permanent with a woman of that age. It's just not worth it.
You can have my 40 somethings...
I'll dip into the 20 somethings, as their male cohort sounds useless and utterly demoralised.
MatureDJ
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It's whenever a woman is old enough so that men no longer have the desire to pursue them with any level of zeal. Age 40 is a good round number for harridanhood.
MatureDJ
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There is just nothing evolutionarily positive about getting with a woman that has aged out of her reproductive years. That said, I could see myself being single father and being OK with an older woman, even a single mommy - but not as a childless bachelor, no no.
