You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Lots of those gals don't look horrid by any means, even if their beauty is 1/8th of a shadow of it's 19-20 year old self. Most of them could easily snag men in their 7th-9th decades of life. This isn't even a uniquely female problem:
You can have my age matches that I'm not interested in...I'm not interested in women that age, no way - and I'm in that age bracket myself.
I'd rather not bother and be on my own if that's all I could get. At least then you've got your peace, you can get your sh!te together, and do your own thing. If ever the juice isn't worth the squeeze, it's with women that old.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Fine for recreational use but again I wouldn't want to be buying into anything permanent with a woman of that age. It's just not worth it.You can have my age matches that I'm not interested in...
You can have my 40 somethings...Fine for recreational use but again I wouldn't want to be buying into anything permanent with a woman of that age. It's just not worth it.
It's whenever a woman is old enough so that men no longer have the desire to pursue them with any level of zeal. Age 40 is a good round number for harridanhood.At what age does Harridan territory begin?
There is just nothing evolutionarily positive about getting with a woman that has aged out of her reproductive years. That said, I could see myself being single father and being OK with an older woman, even a single mommy - but not as a childless bachelor, no no.I'm not interested in women that age, no way - and I'm in that age bracket myself.
I'd rather not bother and be on my own if that's all I could get. At least then you've got your peace, you can get your sh!te together, and do your own thing. If ever the juice isn't worth the squeeze, it's with women that old.