ok, so heres the story.... ive been with this girl since i was a sophmore in high school, 6 years later im almost through with college. When we first met, everything was great, then slowly the jealousy appeared, constant nagging, and attention fiending. Ive been with her for 6 years now, but im getting so irate that sometimes i feel like im gonna snap her neck! lol, i know i gotta be a man to get rid of her, but shes psycho! Sometimes when we have an argument, she'll show up the next day crying to my parents or sit in front of my house for like hours, sh!ts creeps me out.... Now that i think of it, i shoulda seen this coming... any advice?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
6 years, tired, and tryin to break up!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Uh yeah, if you want to dump her, DUMP HER. If not now, when?
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Yeah you gotta get rid of this one. Crying at your parents house when you're not even there? That's whack... or whack-O as it would go. You should break up with her for her own sanities sake. I think the 6 years has gotten her into some serious co depenency issues. Best to end it quickly, and painlessly. You might have to make your point more clear if she tries to come back, which I'd wager she will try to do.
Be strong, do what's right.
Be strong, do what's right.
Dump her, then get a restraining order if she keeps coming around.
With psychos like your gf, sometimes it's best to start acting like a chump and make HER dump YOU. That way she won't be prone to doing things like stalking you, calling you non-stop, cutting the brakes on your car
eek: ). Hey, you'll have to swallow your pride, but she'll take it a lot better than YOU dumping HER. Just something to think about.
With psychos like your gf, sometimes it's best to start acting like a chump and make HER dump YOU. That way she won't be prone to doing things like stalking you, calling you non-stop, cutting the brakes on your car
eek: ). Hey, you'll have to swallow your pride, but she'll take it a lot better than YOU dumping HER. Just something to think about."She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.