6 Dates, No Sex - Should I be worried?

[CaConfused]

Happy Holidays.

I first met a girl online before Thanksgiving. Due to Holidays, me out of town, etc, we've been on 6 dates over the past 6 weeks.

Last date, I finally got to second base. Passionate kissing, top off. She kept me from reaching down her pants...

She texted me after that date, said how much a good time she had.

A couple days before that date, she asked me to take her to the airport. I couldn't think of a reason why not, so I quickly just said "sure, if you go to this thing with me.." I know I should have asked for another favor in return. Ugh.

I picked her up to go to the airport after a party, two days after Date 6. She was sorta picking on me.. she's always sarcastic and I'm great at blowing it off or teasing back. But this was more than usual. It made me wonder if she was devaluing me.

So since she flew home, she's sent me 5 text messages all one morning. The last one showed this bed made of stone (it's art) that her Dad said she would have to sleep in. I replied "LOL, wow, someone has been a naughty girl."

It's been 48 hours later. No response. I know it's the holidays.. but wouldn't you expect someone you've dated for more than a month to respond to a flirty msg like that?

Happy Holidays and thanks for your thoughts on all of this.

 

[Starfvcks 64]

Until you've had sex, you are just her friend.

Six dates is a long time for no sex, and making out really isn't worth much. Girls can brush that off without the slightest care.

You have to be careful, because it sounds like typical friend zone type shlt, just a little more "adult."

Don't text her again until she texts you. When/if she texts you, only respond to benefit you.
Think: "will this text bring me closer to getting laid"

If she never sends sexy responses to sexy questions, that's a big red flag.

If possible, set up a date when she gets back and escalate sexually.
If she isn't putting out, she's wasting your time.

 

[LP700-4]

Man, I hate to break it to you but you're now on the tip of a full blown friend zone experience.

 

[skinnyguy]

Ask her straight up if she wants to have sex the next time you guys hang out. If she says no, or doesn't respond, just move on.

 

[CaConfused]

Ask her straight up if she wants to have sex the next time you guys hang out. If she says no, or doesn't respond, just move on.

She just responded to my flirty question with a picture of a blushing Christmas ornament.

I take that as her way not to get caught in flirty texts.

Think you guys are right... Should I find a way out of having her over to my New Year's party? She's bringing her two friends.

 

[CaConfused]

Until you've had sex, you are just her friend.

Six dates is a long time for no sex, and making out really isn't worth much. Girls can brush that off without the slightest care.

You have to be careful, because it sounds like typical friend zone type shlt, just a little more "adult."

Don't text her again until she texts you. When/if she texts you, only respond to benefit you.
Think: "will this text bring me closer to getting laid"

If she never sends sexy responses to sexy questions, that's a big red flag.

If possible, set up a date when she gets back and escalate sexually.
If she isn't putting out, she's wasting your time.

Thanks dude. I usually only respond to her text messages. She instigates most of the time. It usually goes something like this

HER - 4-5 messages in a row out of nowhere. I respond 15min -2 hours later. She doesn't.

It's weird because our makeout was super passionate for like 2 hours on date 6. But then again we both had a lot of wine. So maybe that's why.

Should I just start ignoring most of her texts, and only text her to set up dates at this point?

 

[adam225]

PUSH, PUSH, PUSH FOR SEX. and carefully watch her reaction. If she hesitates and isn't getting turned on - THEN MOVE ON. You need to be really flirty with her and jokey (in a sex way).

 

[mustfirstregister]

I once fclosed a girl on the 6th date. But most of my flcloses are day2 and day3. my 2 cents

 

[teddy]

Her texting you after a date saying she had a good time means NOTHING in my experience.

 

[LP700-4]

Thanks dude. I usually only respond to her text messages. She instigates most of the time. It usually goes something like this

HER - 4-5 messages in a row out of nowhere. I respond 15min -2 hours later. She doesn't.

It's weird because our makeout was super passionate for like 2 hours on date 6. But then again we both had a lot of wine. So maybe that's why.

Should I just start ignoring most of her texts, and only text her to set up dates at this point?

Not just to set up dates but you need to ensure that you both have sex. Also, you might want to look at the personality you're projecting towards her. You need to present yourself as a sexual being. Someone who will give her sex in response to her giving you sex. Be clear about wanting to be her lover not her "friend". If she's not on the same wavelength with you, cut off ALL communication with her and move on to another girl. Don't even respond to her texts appealing you to "just talk to her". It will only confirm to her that you are emotionally invested in her and she will use it to reaffirm her decision to keep you as a friend.

 

[marmel75]

I'll tell you what to do and if this doesn't work then you might as well give up cause nothing will...btw, this should have been done on date 1 preferrably or date 2 at the latest...
Tell her she really looks like she could use some stress relief and that you give the world's best massages...all women love massages. If she declines it means she doesn't want you touching her and you know its pretty much game over at that point.

If she goes with it, you've got her.
Sit down and have her sit in between your legs. Slowly start massaging her shoulders then move up and down her neck. Wrap your arms around her and pull her back into you. Bend your head down and smell her hair/neck and pull her hair over her ear and whisper in her ear how good she smells. Start rubbing your hands up and down her arms, down her side's and down her legs to her knees and back up again. Listen for any changing in her breathing pattern like heavy breathing that let's you know she is getting aroused...keep whispering in her ear and then start nibbling on her ear lobe, licking her neck and gently biting while continuing to smell her...she should be so turned on that she does the work for you...

Easiest way to get a girl naked and they have almost no resistence to it if done right and she is remotely interested in you...

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

6 dates and no sex?

That's a problem. If I were in your shoes she would have been dropped after the third date with no sex. You need to be bold and say something like this.

Look we've been going out for a little over a month. Were both vibing and got good chemistry. You need to get your favorite bottle. Alize, Patron, 1800, whatever!! You need to come over tonight and we need to kick it. We got to handle some business.

 

[om1xr]

I first met a girl online before Thanksgiving.

Being online is always a red flag because real hot girls who have a decent personality and who are not 100% f*cked up in the head are always in relationships and even if they are single there will be dozens of orbiters who want to date them in a blink of an eye!

we've been on 6 dates over the past 6 weeks.
Last date, I finally got to second base. Passionate kissing, top off. She kept me from reaching down her pants...

this girl is mastering her game very well because she is letting you taste the cake but don't let you eat it or just take small bite of it!

She texted me after that date, said how much a good time she had.

this don't mean sh*t!

A couple days before that date, she asked me to take her to the airport.

I don't know what everyone else think about this but this girl seems like an opportunist who is looking for someone to do sh*t for her! and as long as you are in a weak position because she still withhold sex!

I picked her up to go to the airport after a party, two days after Date 6. She was sorta picking on me.. she's always sarcastic and I'm great at blowing it off or teasing back. But this was more than usual. It made me wonder if she was devaluing me.

another sign that this girl has an agenda to find a sucker to do sh*t for her!
most guys her may think that you are friendzoned but you either going to be a sucker who will do sh*t for her in exchange of sex or you are going to be in the nozone area!

So since she flew home, she's sent me 5 text messages all one morning. .......It's been 48 hours later. No response.

who is the one who hold more power now? because apparently she is trying to emasculate you and you are following her lead like a puppy!

best thing to do is push for sex and don't text that much .....then you will see if your time is worth the chasing or not!

 

[marmel75]

6 dates and no sex?

That's a problem. If I were in your shoes she would have been dropped after the third date with no sex. You need to be bold and say something like this.

I agree its a problem but I always take the approach of a viper...

When you watch a viper hunt it sits there motionless, watching its prey the whole time, waiting for the perfect time to strike. The prey doesn't even realize its there many times and usually walks right into it...deadly, efficient, no wasted moves.

When the prey doesn't see it coming, it cannot react to avoid it.

 

[CaConfused]

Being online is always a red flag because real hot girls who have a decent personality and who are not 100% f*cked up in the head are always in relationships and even if they are single there will be dozens of orbiters who want to date them in a blink of an eye!



this girl is mastering her game very well because she is letting you taste the cake but don't let you eat it or just take small bite of it!



this don't mean sh*t!



I don't know what everyone else think about this but this girl seems like an opportunist who is looking for someone to do sh*t for her! and as long as you are in a weak position because she still withhold sex!




another sign that this girl has an agenda to find a sucker to do sh*t for her!
most guys her may think that you are friendzoned but you either going to be a sucker who will do sh*t for her in exchange of sex or you are going to be in the nozone area!




who is the one who hold more power now? because apparently she is trying to emasculate you and you are following her lead like a puppy!

best thing to do is push for sex and don't text that much .....then you will see if your time is worth the chasing or not!

Thanks for the info. Awesome post.

I really don't text with her that much.She does way more texting. The **** that bothers me about it is that 1) She takes forever to respond and 2) Her response to "LOL, wow, someone has been a naughty girl." was 36 hours later... a picture of blushing Christmas ornament. Clever. But also it feels like she didn't want to continue that convo doesn't it?

QUESTION - How should I respond to that text? It's been 3 hours.. Thought about just "LOL" ..or should I just not respond?

SECOND QUESTION - I asked her to come to my New Year's party on the 6th date. She paused and didn't answer immediately. I asked about the pause and she responded "I just need to thnk about what I'll do about my lesbian friends - they might not want to come since there's no lesbos at your party...Why do you need to know now? Do you have other girls lined up?" I responded "Yes, absolutely. That's why I need to know" -- with a grin obviously. The next day she told me she's definitely coming with her friends. What do I do about that?

So many mixed signals, right?

 

[marmel75]

Tell her you've decided she's still on your nice list and that when she comes back you will slide down her chimney and stuff her stocking, lol...

Thank Naughty Ninja for that, it works

 

[CaConfused]

it seems a little immature for my age bracket. I'm 38. She's 30.

I'm surprised that you're recommending I respond. Why is that?

 

[Greasy Pig]

^^^ That's gold, Marmel.

Harry Wilmington says stop gaming girls on the holidays (there's a whole thread here somewhere if you care to look it up) and he's right.
Women on holidays have a dozen other things on their minds apart from entertaining some dude.
They're with family or doing fun stuff and replying to your texts is very low on her priority list. I'd just cool it until she gets back.
If you must contact her, keep it light and short.
Maybe just send her a pic of your lamest present with a funny message. And don't expect a reply. Don't even ask her a question, just send it and be done.
It shows you're thinking of her but you're not showing neediness or desperation.

As for taking her to the airport. Bad move. Even worse because you haven't fvcked her. She's withholding sex and yet you keep jumping through her hoops. It's every woman's dream!!!
Don't be too eager to please and never be afraid of offending a woman. If she dumped you for not taking her to the airport, that's good because you just weeded out another bytch.

Has she given you a reason for not wanting sex? And finally, a woman who is passionately interested in you won't confuse you.

 

[LP700-4]

Don't respond to that picture text. Go ghost on her a$$.

 

[marmel75]

At this point I think your screwed anyway so I don't think it matters...that post was half in jest...try my suggestion for the massage